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06-02-2008, 08:02 PM | #1 | |||
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They say that, after it’s over, you forget what labor pains feel like. They’re liars.
Thirty-five years after the fact, I remember every fingernail-ripping pain. I can still hear every horror movie, dying-animal noise I never knew my voice could make. I can close my eyes right now and I’m there. I can also remember holding each squirming little miracle in my arms. With the pain still throbbing in body parts recently called upon to do the impossible, I already knew that every minute was so very, very worth it. I look at those babies today, grown and married, holding responsible jobs, one a mother herself. I can call up the pain in a nano-second, but I still believe that it was worth it. If I had to go through it every year of their lives in order to keep them, I wouldn’t hesitate. If someone had leaned close while I was in the grip of a contraction and whispered, “It will be worth it when you hold that baby”, I would have tied his ears in a knot and stuffed them down his throat with gusto. When I was in labor, I couldn’t imagine having future emotions, or consider that there might be light at the end of the tunnel. I couldn’t even think about the baby itself. There was no place that the pain didn’t reach. My teeth hurt, my eyebrows hurt, my toenails hurt. The pain was so huge in my brain that even the pain itself was beyond comprehending. It just was. And it was ALL that there was, until it was over. The first time I heard the Scripture verse from Romans, “I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us”, I was a young mother with a few sufferings already under my belt at that present time. I lived in a house that a prospective buyer once mused would “cost a lot of money to make livable”. And I lived in it. Frozen cat's water dish in the winter, sweltering hot in the summer, sewage in the basement, maggots in the carpet, bats in the bedrooms, carpenter ants munching in the walls which were insulated with bat guano and old newspapers. I had two little kids, no money, and the honeymoon was over. I clung to that verse while it seemed that pain was all there was. Over time, as in every life, more sufferings came–small, large, and super-sized. Two wild ambulance rides with each child as the patient. Diagnoses of no less than four chronic diseases, half of which are potentially debilitating. A runaway teenager. A divorce. The deaths of beloved parents and treasured friends. The hurts and disappointments and betrayals that come into all lives. They are not worthy to be compared. I’m not sure I would have wanted to hear that from you while I was suffering these things. I may have been tempted to tie your ears in a knot, etc. But God kept reminding me, even during the pain, even when I wasn’t sure I really believed Him. Not worthy to be compared. My mother used to talk about dropping our troubles into a hat and pulling out different ones, and how we’d wish we had our own back. She was right, of course. When I was still shaken by the diagnosis of multiple sclerosis, I tried to re-focus my perspective with the pain that it was NOT: I didn’t have ALS or Alzheimer’s or an inoperable brain tumor; I hadn’t lost a spouse or a child, my home or my eyesight. I kept repeating Romans 8:18, knowing that if I kept saying it and saying it that I would start to believe it again. And I did. And I do. Some of my sufferings have produced blessings. Some have not...yet. Has the pain been worth it? Not yet. Not yet. I continue reading in Romans: “We know that the whole creation has been groaning as in the pains of childbirth...we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly...for the redemption of our bodies.” Groaning inwardly and waiting eagerly. The labor pains that were worth it all. And continuing in Romans, from the Message: “That is why waiting does not diminish us, any more than waiting diminishes a pregnant mother... Meanwhile, the moment we get tired in the waiting, God's Spirit is right alongside helping us along. If we don't know how or what to pray, it doesn't matter. He does our praying in and for us, making prayer out of our wordless sighs, our aching groans. He knows us far better than we know ourselves, knows our pregnant condition, and keeps us present before God. That's why we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good.” My friend Joyce and I talked one day, after we had both lost husbands–hers to sudden death, mine to divorce. We wondered aloud which was the worse pain, to love deeply and lose that person too early; or never to know that kind of love at all. We came to the conclusion that there is no measure with which to compare one's pain to another's. While the suffering goes on, it’s always a tie for first place. And when it’s over? It’s still a tie. Your suffering, mine, the martyr in Bangladesh or Ethiopia all tie for last place. Because the sufferings of this present time aren’t worthy to be compared with the glory that will be revealed in us. You don’t know my pain. I don’t know yours. But God knows both, and according to His Word, He is making prayer out of our aching groans. Did you get that? He is taking the groans and whimpers and tears of our present pain, and turning it into prayer. And then? And then? In the words of the hymn by Esther Kerr Rusthoi: It will be worth it all when we see Jesus, Life’s trials will seem so small when we see Christ; One glimpse of His dear face all sorrow will erase, So bravely run the race till we see Christ. Is it worth it? No. But it will be.
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* * * **My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever. (Psalm 73:26) Last edited by Blessings2You; 06-03-2008 at 12:23 PM. |
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06-02-2008, 08:18 PM | #2 | |||
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Thank you for posting this. I am inspired by these words and by you for posting.
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06-03-2008, 08:03 AM | #3 | ||
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Thank you for the post. I needed to read that just now and am grateful you took the time to share that with me. I say "me" instead of "us" because it was very personal to me and it could have been directed right to me instead of the forum.
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06-03-2008, 08:25 AM | #4 | |||
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B2Y.....you have a special gift when it comes to putting feelings into words. Thank you for sharing this with all of us.
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06-03-2008, 12:49 PM | #5 | |||
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Apostles? Sure, but not now. 12. A dozen? Sure, whatever. 12 happens to be my threshold for when I think about something over and over and decide it's time to say something. Thirty minutes ago, I stepped out of the shower and again thought of this post; that made the 12th time. So, B2, I'm here to vehemently disagree with your conclusion. Is it worth it? You say, "no, but it will be." I say, "Yes! It's worth it, every minute of every day!" Here's why: I believe, firmly, that God has me here for His reasons. I believe, firmly, that my entire existence is for the glory of God and for His purpose. Yes, at times I ask Him what the heck He's thinking when things don't especially amuse me, but I also realize that, frankly, it's none of my business. God put me here, this minute, on this day, under these circumstances because it is exactly where He wants me for His purposes. The MS is the route that He used to steer me in His direction, according to His plan. He could have used a car wreck, a fall from a ladder, a softball in the noggen, or any number of things. This time, it's MS. Never in my life did I dream of my own children, He did not create me as the "marrying kind" and I honestly don't feel left out. I enjoy my life. My career ended suddenly and with a thud, but I am educated and have felt pulled in one direction or another to use that education for God jobs all along the way. As long as He chooses to keep me on earth, it is entirely worth it to me to be here for His purposes. So, YES! IT'S WORTH IT, EVERYTHING IS WORTHWHILE WHEN IT'S FOR HIS PURPOSE! Who am I? I'm that grain of sand under 500,000,000,000,000,000,000x other ones, but I belong to God and He knows my name! When I get home, it's only gonna get better!
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—Cindy For every day I choose to play, I set aside a day to pay. —AMN "Sometimes plastic wrap just won't cling, no matter how much money you put in the meter." —From the Book of True Wizdom Last edited by AfterMyNap; 06-03-2008 at 01:22 PM. |
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06-03-2008, 04:19 PM | #6 | |||
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Know what, Cindy? I don't think we disagree at all. I think we're just coming at the same thing from different ways.
I re-read your post a few times (not 12, yet) and I agree with everything you said. Totally. I'll have to go back and read my own post again and see if I can figure out where our thoughts don't mesh. Perhaps I should have concluded with "Sometimes I don't understand and I wonder if it's worth it. Sometimes I even think it's not. But someday, from the perspective of His Presence, I'll see that it was worth it all along."
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06-03-2008, 04:37 PM | #7 | |||
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No, B2, we don't really disagree, my take is that every breath we take is worth something to God. I rarely get it, I don't get why we have to feel pain on a daily basis, or anything else, but if it's what God wants for me, it's all worthwhile in my book. That's all I'm really trying to say.
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—Cindy For every day I choose to play, I set aside a day to pay. —AMN "Sometimes plastic wrap just won't cling, no matter how much money you put in the meter." —From the Book of True Wizdom |
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06-03-2008, 04:50 PM | #8 | |||
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It's worth it RIGHT NOW and it will be even better LATER--we agree!
Sometimes we just need Him to remind us of both.
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* * * **My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever. (Psalm 73:26) |
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