Wow, he even set a deadline to get out of your bedroom? Pffftt, I'd toss him alright.

weave, not sure whats up or what happened to cause this drift, I just get a feeling it is not good in anyway that you look at it, I hope the arrangements you are trying to work out, do work out

I am so sorry Weave

It's hard enough going through a separation but when they stay in the house (even in the basement) I would think that would be even harder. (constant reminder).

I'm sure its hard on the kids too. Even if you aren't saying anything negative kids can sense the tension. I'm sure it makes for a very uncomfortable situation.

I agree with AMN. Make that call. It can't hurt. Just find out if they can offer any advise or help.

My prayers are with you and your family.

Sandy- He is moving his stuff out of our bedroom which he hasn't slept in for years. He has sleep apnea and refuses to use his cpap machine. His snoring didn't let me sleep so he went to the living room sofa and later his current location.

Frank- I'm not holding my breath that things will work out. There were problems before we even exchanged rings. We were stunned to find each other and a bit stupid or naive, take your pick.

Bannet- There are advantages to living in the same house different floors. Hopefully that will work out for us. Sadly the kids have heard all of our fights from the very beginning. I never wanted it that way as I never heard them as a kid but he did and I was powerless to keep them from the kids. I'll be making that call after a meeting on Monday.

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No other news to report. Thanks for letting me lean on your shoulders. I can barely walk on my own but you keep gently leading me forward.

Man WH~ I just feel so darn bad for you. Your sadness and frustration rings loud and clear in your posts. I can only say, that we all care about you here and hope that you'll continue to seek support and comfort from all of us.

That's why WE are here.

I am praying for you and your kids....
Above all~ please try and take care of yourself; stress is so hard on a person.

{{{{WH}}}}

Nothing much to say. If our yard sale gets rained out tomorrow like I think it will Plan B might get him out of my hair for the rest of the day. I bartered for some tutoring and the pay up call came last night.

Myself and my kids are priority. The stress is trying to eat me alive. As long as I take things one moment at a time I think I will be okay.

Assume no news over the weekend means things are stable.

Weave You're doing the right thing by just taking things as they come. I've learned that the more I fret over all the "what ifs" the more stressed and anxious I get. That's not to say that having a plan and anticipating what might happen isn't a good thing...it's always good to be prepared...but what is going to happen will happen with or without our worrying and fretting. Just take it one day (or hour or minute) at a time and try not to look too far ahead....concentrate on getting through "now" and the rest will fall into place. Wow, I just sounded alot like my Mom used to sound. I guess that's a good thing....

I'm praying for you and your family.....

Survived the weekend. His carp is still in my bedroom but he still plans to move out. Somehow I knew Friday night would come and go with his stuff still there.

Today is our once and done gripe session with the pastor. I don't know what to hope for with that. I still say it is a complete waste of cleaning/ packing time. I'm not 100% sure I'm even going to bother showing up.

Thanks for your continued kindness and prayers.

Weave, good luck today. I think you should go. If not for the two of you, go for yourself. Sometimes talking it out helps and leaning on your spiritual side may ease some of your pain.

I agree with Sandy....go for yourself and for no other reason. If you go with an open mind and heart you might be surprised what a neutral, third party opinion on things can do for you.

I think of you often, Weave, and you're always in my prayers.