Hello every one.... I have not had a partner for nearly 3years... following the death of my teenage son... I lost my child and lost my interest in life....
Now i have a partner... some one to talk to, hold me, wipe away my tears, comfort... and to care for me.. so every body keeps saying.....


The problem is... when i have intercourse with him i bleed and it is so imbarrassing.... i just dont know what it is... I am to ashamed to go to the doctor... or have sex with him again... please help me.. I cant be happy as it is since i lost my child... i just cant be happy, im stressed, cry all the time, have outbursts of breaking down so bad that i cant control my pain of grief that is eating at my heart... This bleeding is not helping me at all. Please help me find out what it may be.... what can i do to stop this bleeding during intercourse...

Hugs xxx

You really need to be checked by a Dr.
Have you had regular pelvic check ups and or had one recently?
If not, I'd schedule an appt and and mention it so the dr can check for any causes of the bleeding.

No bleeding after intercourse is normal annabella, and although there are many conditions that might cause it....please know that each and every one of them is treatable. They all need investigation I'm afraid, so you'll need to overcome your embarrassment.

I know it's hard to tell your doctor embarrassing things sometimes, but gosh.... if I'd been too embarrassed to tell my doctor about the bleeding I had from my bowel, I'd probably be dead by now because mine turned out to be cancer. Please don't let that happen to you.

Bleeding from the vagina... unrelated to menstruation, does have many causes, and here are some of them.

Vaginal Yeast Infections: A very common vaginal infection caused by an overgrowth of the natural yeast inhabitants of the vagina. Common after courses of oral antibiotics, but can happen due to other causes as well. Other than bleeding, symptoms include itching, burning, and an odorless, white, cheese-like discharge.

Cervical dysplasia : This is a precancerous change to the cervix. If you haven't had a pap smear for a while, now's probably a good time to go get one.

Vaginitis or cervicitis: which is simply an inflammation of the cervix, with or without infection.

Polyps. You can get polyps on your cervix or in your uterus, just as easily as you can get them in your bowel or your nasal passages. Polyps are little outgrowths of the mucous layer. They're extremely fragile, bleed easily but are simple to remove..... should that be your problem.

Endometriosis can also cause bleeding. That's an inflammation of the inner most layer of your uterus, but sometimes leaves the uterus and attaches itself to other organs in the lower abdomen, like the ovaries or bowel.

Then are the sexually transmitted diseases and of cause, cancer.

Please see your doctor annabella. No matter what the cause of your bleeding, any treatment will help or cure your problem, as long as you seek help early.....and please remember that I'd be dead or dying by now had I not overcome my own embarrassment. Please try to overcome your own.

Sending you some understanding hugs.

Dear Jo * Mar thankyou for your advice... I will make an appointment now... I just hate going to our local GP they Judage yopu there.... there attitude makes one feel so uncomfortable... But I will go (((Jo)))

Thankyou

Annabella

Dear Koala 77

Thankyou also for your advice gosh... is scary what i may have, but i will go to the GP, they don't make it any easy either for you... the way they look down on you... some times i just wish my GP would look up at me when im explaining my problems. Again many thanks

(((Koala 77))) xx

Annabeela

Dear Koala Thankyou so much for your advice.. i will go to the GP.. im really grateful for your reply and input into what it may be..



(((Koala))) xx take care

Annabella

Just wanted to mention--nothing was said about your age--but "older women" often experience vaginal dryness--which can mean sensitive tissue and hence possible bleeding....

Also, even after all these years, I don't want just anybody looking up my parts, so I am picky about my gynecologists. Ha! I guess almost like I'm picky about who I want to have sex with. I have chosen to now go to women doctors (not that I'm gay)--and I find them to know more what they're doing and to not be so awkward and clumsy about even putting the speculum in! Just a thought for the future....

Glad to hear you did chose to see a doctor. Better to be safe.....