[SandyC]

I was sitting around and thinking about how I approach some things like when one of you are down and out. I am always throwing in the upbeat attitude, saying I am sorry, it will get better, God is there, everything happens for a reason, etc..

Maybe it's the care partner in me but I have to wonder does it ever annoy you when people like me do that? I mean, after awhile even I would say "How could you even know?"

Yes, I take care of Jim and it's going on 21 years of living with ms and yes, I have extensive knowledge of the disease but that doesn't make me really get it does it? Even sweet Jim will get that look on his face sometimes. You know the look you give someone who is trying to help and you just go with it rather than smack them?

I guess what I am saying is I will never truly get it. I want you to know when I am offering support it comes from my heart. I am in no way a know it all and hope I never come across as one. I care for all of you and am grateful for this site.

I have learned so much from many of you about ms on a deeper level that books can ever reach. As my mom used to say "Throw away those damn books! They wont teach you everyday things you need to know by trial and error!"

She was right but don't tell her that OK?

PS: Fell free to post your stories about those of us trying to do right, the good, the bad and the ugly. Believe it or not, we learn from your stories.