Holly,

The dehydration part was really hard to watch. Especially for my mom. To her, she NEEDED to feed him. By this point he was aspirating on just a tiny bit of water.

Hospice kept saying that the need to eat and drink stops. How they know that, I have no clue.
My dad went 1 week with no nutrition prior to death.

Holly, I know it's hard to talk to her when she seems so unaware. Hospice kept telling us that the hearing is the last thing to go. So I would tell Daddy what the weather was like. I would tell him what was going on in the house. I would tell him what my mom was doing, because he always wanted to know where she was.
You could just read to her off your face book. Just things like "Kasey is on her way to school." You could read from a book. Anything to make noise.
We played my dad's favorite CD's a lot.

Holly, anytime you are scared or unsure, call hospice. They will come out.
Don't worry about if you are bothering them. That is their job.
The nurse came out many times just to reassure us.

I guess I found it easier to know what to expect. What to look for.
I will send you a private message with some info.

My thoughts and prayers are with you always.

DAY

Just wanted to thank you all and let you know that Grandma is at peace. She died at 11:32 last night. We had called hospice to come over because she was really struggling to breathe. Yesterday she was really totally unresponsive all day, but I know she could hear because she did react to sounds. At one point I hugged her and stroked her face and told her it was OK to go. I told her to say hi from me to my Mom, Grandpa and Uncle Doc when she gets there.

I just can't quite believe she is gone now. I walk past her room and she isn't there. I miss her so much.

(((((((Holly)))))))) I am so sorry for you loss. I know this time has been precious. She is at peace.

Holly

I'm so sorry. I'm so glad you got to spend the time you did with her. Take care of yourself.....and allow yourself time to grieve.

I am sorry for your loss. What a wonderful gift you gave your grandmother, to pass surrounded by those that loved her.

Holly, I am so sorry. But I want you to know you were wonderful through all of this and I am honored you let us take the journey with you.

Hi Hon!!
Believe it or not, you have more compassion, more soul, more empathy, than many people that I know. You did good my dear.

She's watching!! Always know that.

Be at peace.

here's a hug



Love, Melody

Holly, I hope I have strong children or grandchildren like you by my side when I pass... you did a great wonderful job of it...you take good care of you now, grieving is hard, but a neccessary part of losing a loved one... we are here for you dear..hugsss,sarah

Hey Holly! While it is so sad to lose your dear Grandmother; you now know that she is pain free and w/Grandpa. You have been an amazing G'Dau to her and she passed knowing how very much she was loved.

Take care Holly and she may not physically be here, but she's always going to be w/you in your heart through your wonderful memories and love for each other.

I am keeping you and your family in my prayers during this difficult time.

Holly,

I'm so sorry for your loss. You're such a wonderful granddaughter for all you've done for your grandma. She's not in pain anymore and in a much better place. I'll keep you all in my prayers.