[braingonebad]

She's my exDIL. Not my favorite person, not that I hate her.

But still, I don't want to see her do something she won't be able to live with.

She's the mother of my adorable granddaughter. She loves her little girl dearly. She's had at least 2 miscarraiges, maybe 3, and each was devastating. Now she is pregnant again, BF is dumping her and demanding she gets an abortion.

Her family is no support. Her mother refused to talk to her the last time she got pregnant, she was so mad at her.

And true, she never got her high school diploma, trying to get her GED. She does need to grow up and get her life together, get a J-O-B. Not have a baby with ever guy she meets.

But still....

She's a lot like me (I HATE admitting that, LOL!) and although she knows she can't afford this baby, and how hard it's going to be, single mom to 2 kids, no place to live for the moment, I know this is the last thing she wants to do.


Everyone is telling her this is the ONLY way. That she has no right to bring another kid into the world that she can't take care of.

I so want to tell her she should listen to her heart, and somehow things will work out. That guy doesn't care about her or that baby. He just doesn't want to get stuck paying child support. Why should she do this and feel horrible the rest of her life to suit him?


If I thought for one minute she was okay with this, I'd respect her decision. But I know this is killing her. I hate that. I don't know why I care, but I guess I hate to see anybody in that position, with nobody on their side.

This is NOT about whether abortion is right or wrong - this is NOT the place for that. It's about someone who has nobody to support her and has to make a decision that will affect the rest of her life.

That decision could be any tough choice, anything you had to do that you knew in your heart you could never recover from. Put yourself in that girl's shoes.


I feel so badly for her, but what can I do? Would you say something? Should I?


Or should I just shut up?

The reason I'm asking is because there was recently another young woman I knew in similar circumstances. I kept mum, she had the abortion. Now she's a mess. I feel like I should have spoken up.