Thank you for your response, I will be back in the attorneys office today. DCF wants an interview by phone with two of them against me. NO WAY. I will have the law in front of me through my attorney. I know that right now, I cannot do the research this would require. My BP soared, 225/100 with dealing with it. I had to get the help or go crazy. My son will pay my fee. In changing from DCF to SSID something went wrong. I will find out for sure just what can be done. thanks ginnie

Holy heart attach ginnie watch that BP or you won't be in any condition to even type here. It sounds like a real mess your in and an attorney seems your only way out. I don't understand why they seem to be punishing you, when people who caused the collapse of the economy (Sally Mae, Freddie Mac) are walking around with a slap on the hand. When I hear stories like this my blood boils. Well let us know what happens. It looks like you are heading in the right direction.

Our country is in big trouble when they take away food from a dissabled person who was only following the rules that they themselves put before me. I am feeling shame, shame on these agiencies who use silly rules against those who have real need. When the rules work against each other, that is another issue as well. If one acency has rules, and that don't comply with another, you are out on you butt. This is how I see my current situation. Some things just are not moral,and that is the position I am taking. I lost all that two generations had because of my dissability, now they don't want me to eat either. Ok, I'm up for a bit of a fight...ginnie

I was completely hopeless and helpless when I decided to take on the daunting task of trying to apply for SSDI. Had no clue where to start or what was invloved in the whole process. Besides being a total mess I was tossed out of my home several times because I could barely function at home, let alone hold down a job. When my wife saw that I was actually taking the steps tward getting disability benefits she let me back into my home. I guess it was too much for her to withstand and I was just weighing her down. What hurt the most was that I never imagined that she would want me to leave, ever. But I learned alot about her and her limits and I don't think our relationship will ever be the same again.

Thankfully I was approved with the help of B & B holding my hand throughout the process and my doctor made sure I had what I needed to have a fighting chance of being approved. Don't know what I am still doing here and still married to my wife after the damage was done to our relationship. Trust is a big thing when you are in a relationship and that trust is forever lost.

Oh dear, it hurt didn't it. Your wife was uable to respond to you in a dissabled state. Two members of my family left my life when I became dissabled. It is a sacred trust that is hurt, because that is what I feel too. I am not sure what makes some people strong for their partners, or what makes them run away from you, shunning your obvious need. People can and are real selfish sometimes. There really is no excuse, it is person failing to have enough compassion, to be a good person in time of need. I hope you find comfort and friends here in this site, I sure have. I am not good at making lemonaid out of lemons in my own life. I come here lately and find information and a good deal of help right here. I hope you can find some comfort too. Ginnie

What happened to for rich or poor? Sickness or in health? I don't know how I feel about people who don't want anything to do with you because you are having a hard time. I feel bad for you. Well maybe one day she will become sick and know how you feel. I don't wish this on her but, I don't agree with the way you were treated.

That's exactly what went through my head when all this crap was happening. I really do love her, that is probably why I stick around and I believe she loves me too. All I can do is forgive and forget because I don't believe in divorce and we have been together for 29 years, that is hard to walk away from. Things are better now that I am able to contribute to the household expenses.

Bless your heart, congratulations on staying with her that long. Maybe she was afraid you were going to just sit around and let her support everyone. Glad to see it's going better and hope things continue to improve.

Did you lose the weight because you were hungry or because you wanted to? Want to hear a really stupid rule, I was going to start a thread on this. If you are married and your spouse dies, you have to apply for disability within 7 years of his death, or 7 years after your kids stop getting survivor benefits. I'm not kidding that is a real rule. So if your husband dies when you are 25 the kids are all grown at 46 you have till 53 to become disabled. So the 911 victims , the gulf oil spill victims, the Iraq War, I'm sure they have no idea this rule exists. I don't know what they have to gain by having all these strange rules.

If your husband dies when you are 25, his children would not still be collecting survivor's benefits 21 years later when you are 46.

If you are widowed young, you need to determine if your assets will allow you to continue to stay home with the kids and purchase your own disability insurance OR you go back to work. Then if you are later disabled, you qualify for SSDI under your own benefit.