[cmcantelmo]

About 2 years ago my husband had his second spinal fusion done. He crashed on the table but the doc had a cell saver ready and he only needed one transfusion so it wound up being ok, I thought anyway. He has hurt our relationship over the last 2 years in various ways and has refused to talk to me about anything. I found out about another woman he's been talking to (they met online and he insists it's just talk but some of the messages I saw were sexual so I naturally got upset and was pretty hurt). I want to work things out but I felt him pushing away. I finally had enough today and told him we needed some time apart. He finally admitted to me he has felt empty inside since surgery, that he isn't sure if his brain suffered from the loss of so much blood or what but that he hasn't been right since then.

Has anyone else experienced this? He had seen a psychiatrist and started some meds but said they did not help and stopped taking them. I want to stay with him and help him through this, especially now that I know what is going on with him...but I have no idea where to begin. Ay advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you