The prospect of surgery is always scary, and should never be taken lightly.

I think what you need first is information. Is there someone (husband/partner/SO) that you can have come with you to appointments? This helps in remembering (both ways—what's said, and what you want to ask/say), clarifying (sometimes we're in too much shock to think clearly and ask pertinent questions at the time) and notetaking. As you collect information, you can research your condition, ramifications, procedures (surgery), etc. The more you know about it, the better equipped to handle & make good decisions.

Then, before agreeing/committing to any surgery, it might be best to get (at least) a second—and possibly more—opinion(s).

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If it is fluid, maybe only a needle aspiration would be done, like a day surgery, not a major open you up type of thing..

[They want more images and me to see a neuro surgeon ]
I would definitely do this and see what comes of this next step and the info they find.

Spineplanning on going to the surgeons with my husband and he is pretty good about asking questions but yes I do not want surgery if I do not need it. But I also want this pain to go away so if they can fix me without surgery that would be great.I just didn't know if anyone had heard of having fluid buildup in your spine after a epidural.

I have not. I have heard of cerebrospinal fluid (CSF) leak following puncture of the dura (as in an epidural). I searched for (as I'm sure you did) any mention of CSF buildup following this procedure, and couldn't find anything, which suggests to me that it is a rarer occurrence.

You might ask on the Arnold Chiari Malformation & Syringomyelia or Hydrocephalus forums, only because those conditions deal with CSF abnormalities.

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