(CBS) Chances are you probably know someone who has died, or nearly died, because of medical mistakes in a hospital. It's much more common than most people realize, and if it can happen to the children of movie star, at one of the finest hospitals in the country, it can happen to anyone.

60 Minutes had Dennis Quade on last night talking about the medical mistake that nearly killed their twins.

How I wish that our 8 year old grandson had been fortunate enough to survive the hospitals' "mistake".

(now Alffe...you're supposed to be forgiving....~sigh)

{{{HUGS}}}} some times it takes a very long time before you can get to the place you can forgive.... and thats ok... it took me 40 years before i finally got to the place i could forgive my uncle of the things he did to me...

((Alffe))

I don't know the circumstances surrounding your grandson's death. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I worked in pediatrics for over ten years, then left to work for the president of a turkey company. I got into an argument with my corporate boss one day over making mistakes. Mistakes made there only cost money - mistakes where I used to work would cost LIVES.

Over the years at the hospital I was aware of some tragic mistakes that were made. One in particular was an overworked nurse in the nursery. Her "crime" was using the wrong electrical outlet (voltage was too high and it killed the baby). It was a split-second decision during a chaotic moment at work. How many people who have jobs have ever been in that position (overloaded and rushed) and made a "mistake?"

I am NOT justifying that nurse's actions. However, we all knew her very well. We knew how much she LOVED her job and those babies. She had grandchildren of her own, and she treated them all as if they were her own grandchildren. She was a great nurse, but due to cutbacks they were ALL overworked and forced to rush through their work. She was portrayed in the media as a "murderer." Her "mistake" caused her to have a total breakdown, lose her job and home, and I doubt she's ever forgiven herself for what she did to that family.

Whatever may have happened to your grandson, I'm quite certain those responsible continue to feel remorse for their actions. I hope one day you'll be able to let go of the anger and forgive them.

((Alffe)) I'll never forget that day either. I think of it often, most particularly when grandson has to go to the doctor and get medicine, and I worry.

Alffe

May I ask what happened to your grandson - specifically? If it's too painful to talk about it, I'll understand.

I hope she doesn't mind.

He had a simple surgical procedure, but afterwards they gave him an adult dose of pain medicine, I believe. The overdose took his life.

He went into the surgi center to have a simple adnoidectomy. They gave him adult doses of codene...both the adult and child doses were in identicle packages but kept on different shelves...one shelf under the other. The autopsy showed he had three times the level he should have had in his little body. His mom took him home that afternoon and he died in his bed, in his sleep. His mother is a remarkable woman and I am just in awe of her.

Thank you all for caring. We all learned that you sit right there with the professionals and you ask....what is that? What are you giving him? what are you doing? ~sigh

Thank you ((Alffe)) - how tragic. What a tough lesson to learn.

Oh Kathy I can't imagin the horror that nurse felt because she knew right away what she'd done. How awful! Two of our daughters are nurses, in fact one of them works in a pediatricians office so I hear "stories" a lot.