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Twinkletoes 12-04-2008 11:37 PM

hippiechick, I was thinking of you and another board member last night.

My son phoned us and said that my DH and I had offended him and his wife. We talked a long time, hung up and then called back later and DH talked some more.

I said to my son that I know folks who have problems getting to visit their grandchildren b/c of bad feelings amongst the adults. I praised him for the phone call, rather than withdrawing. He didn't say anything ugly (thank goodness), and I think we mended the hurt feelings.

I think in his heart he knew that we would never intentionally exclude their cute little daughter from anything. But it appeared that we had, hence the phone call.

I hope that things improve with your family, hippiechick. Isn't it nice to have a supportive family here at NT? :) So happy that you are feeling better. You GO, girl!!! :D

hippiechick 12-05-2008 10:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Twinkletoes (Post 419715)
hippiechick, I was thinking of you and another board member last night.

My son phoned us and said that my DH and I had offended him and his wife. We talked a long time, hung up and then called back later and DH talked some more.

I said to my son that I know folks who have problems getting to visit their grandchildren b/c of bad feelings amongst the adults. I praised him for the phone call, rather than withdrawing. He didn't say anything ugly (thank goodness), and I think we mended the hurt feelings.

I think in his heart he knew that we would never intentionally exclude their cute little daughter from anything. But it appeared that we had, hence the phone call.

I hope that things improve with your family, hippiechick. Isn't it nice to have a supportive family here at NT? :) So happy that you are feeling better. You GO, girl!!! :D

Hi, everyone...there is no way in the world I could ever remember everyone's names, so rather than exclude anyone, you're all included in this: today was the BEST day!!!! Yup, I got outta the house, can you even believe that????? It was so cold...but fun. And, I decided that, rather than be sad about anything (here it comes, Alffe......) I'm joining "kick butt gym class".....hahahaha!!!!! If you can't join 'em, beat 'em. Oh, that's bad....I think I got that backwards. Did I really say that out loud???? Shame on me - and at Christmas time! Ooops....guess Santa won't leave anything under my tree. Twink, I'm really glad that you were able to mend fences with your son. That's a good thing. I'm glad that a beautiful little girl wasn't put in the middle and hurt by everything. That's really good and I'm very happy for you. I am so very, very blessed to have family here, there, and everywhere by just being here. We all are. For some reason, we're all here, at this time, in this place, at this stage in our lives....now, how cool is THAT?????

Nik-key 12-06-2008 02:25 AM

((Hippiechick)) You either having me crying or laughing my butt off! :D I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo happy that you had such a great day!! It IS good to get out of the house every now and then isn't it!! Back when Lynn was able to work and I was here all alone, my sis use to come down and DRAG me out. I was bummed out and didn't want to, but she use to say, NIK!!! even the rugs get taken out every once in a while, now don't make me beat you, like I do them! LOL

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I could possibly take a chance on love, oh, alright, I love you, too. There, it's out, I'm a softie.....I can't stay down for that long.
:hug:Love you too, and so glad to see you more upbeat. We are always here for you. I know all too soon, we could be down again, if you feel it coming on, come here, or IM me!!!:hug: That is the fighter in you that wont let you stay down too long!!

Alffe 12-07-2008 07:29 AM

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Originally Posted by hippiechick (Post 420194)
Hi, everyone...there is no way in the world I could ever remember everyone's names, so rather than exclude anyone, you're all included in this: today was the BEST day!!!! Yup, I got outta the house, can you even believe that????? It was so cold...but fun. And, I decided that, rather than be sad about anything (here it comes, Alffe......) I'm joining "kick butt gym class".....hahahaha!!!!! If you can't join 'em, beat 'em. Oh, that's bad....I think I got that backwards. Did I really say that out loud???? Shame on me - and at Christmas time! Ooops....guess Santa won't leave anything under my tree. Twink, I'm really glad that you were able to mend fences with your son. That's a good thing. I'm glad that a beautiful little girl wasn't put in the middle and hurt by everything. That's really good and I'm very happy for you. I am so very, very blessed to have family here, there, and everywhere by just being here. We all are. For some reason, we're all here, at this time, in this place, at this stage in our lives....now, how cool is THAT?????

That is very cool!! You have me grinning here HippieChick....:D
Is that 80th birthday party today??? :hug:

mistiis 12-07-2008 09:34 AM

...love you bunches hipchick....stay warm....:hug:

Doody 12-07-2008 12:45 PM

(((Hippiechick))) Your higher power loves you and is right there guiding you even when you think not. Just keep loving and living each day as it comes to you the best that you can and all else will fall into place. Much love and hugs. :hug:

ConsiderThis 12-07-2008 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by hippiechick (Post 418591)
Today I took Moi's advice and talked to my DIL because she'd called early in the a.m. and left a very disturbing message about my grandson. I, eventually told her how the times they'd taken the kids away from us had hurt and she started screaming at me....I hung up. Later the son called and said that he hates us, his wife hates us, and the kids want NOTHING to do with us - ever. We will NEVER see the kids again, we are not his parents, he wants nothing from us - take him out of the will, etc. My heart is not only broken, I'm not even certain it's there anymore. The last time they took the kids away it was over 6 months and it was horrible. He said that, if we tried to contact them at Christmas, the presents would be thrown away. Grandson's birthday is a week after Christmas and I'm sure he'll wonder why we aren't coming to take him to dinner and to let him pick his present. The DIL has a habit of turning things around to her benefit and lies constantly so I have no idea what she told the son. At this point all I want to do is die and I feel incredibly trapped. On the one hand, I "need" to be here for hubby....but I just don't want to be here. I'm going to die anyway, what's the big deal? So I speed things up and I don't really see anything wrong with that. Yeah, the kid knows that the diagnosis was made a few years ago but he never believed it because I never let him see the "bad side" of the disease....I always managed to be around him when it was the rare good day. Now I don't care. I just feel so trapped and tired and I don't want to do this anymore. I don't see anything wrong with speeding up the process a little. At this point I think - know - that even God hates me. How can you argue with that???? I don't want to think anymore after today. There just doesn't seem like there's much left to say.

Why do you think God would hate you?

Alffe 12-07-2008 01:38 PM

Hmmmm...this is an older post Consider when Hippie was having a bad day and hurting. She's feeling much better and is surrounded by our love. :grouphug:

How are you....aside from a B12 answer. *grin I hope you are well. :hug:

hippiechick 12-07-2008 08:35 PM

Yes, Alffe, the party was today....5 (12"x15") pans of chicken pot pies made by sis in law # 4 and a huge cake. It was lots of fun and, of course, my FIL just loved it. We do it every year for him. My saintly MIL started it when all of their kids were small and know they all have their own kids and some of them have grandkids. But it was a houseful - again! Same house as Thanksgiving! I have done more shopping in the past 3 days than I've done in a long time and yet I've not bought a thing, well, except for my FIL. He's very hard to buy for because he has everything he says he wants and gives NO clues. We always buy close captioned movies because he's completely lost his hearing from working in the plant for 42 years; same place hubby works. His hearing just happens to be "selective" - for instance, when we're in the car and he's the driver and I'm the passenger - just happens to affect his right ear at that particular moment!!!! Go figure. Seems a bit suspicious to me. Im a thinking he's trying to pull something over on me already and it's not working. I wasn't born yesterday, unfortunately. To Doody: I know my higher power is looking out for me and I am praying constantly for a forgiving heart. I know the grandkids will be okay. I just need to be back to myself and not become hardened by this because that would be easy to do. I keep praying every time I feel myself start to think about it....I have to forgive. And to Consider This: My nails are fine and, as far as I know, my CBC is fine, too. Or as much as can be expected at this point. I don't go to the doc too often because I tend to get admitted to the hospital very often and I try to avoid that as much as possible. I'd prefer home health or hospice to take care of me at home. Hospitals are too sterile and cold. And to Mistiis and Nik: Love you bunches, bunches, bunches, too!!!!!!!!!

Alffe 12-07-2008 09:54 PM

Ummmmmm, Hippiechick...what are the chances of getting that chicken pot pie recipe.........:D I love chicken pot pie. Ok...off to bed..long hard day but sil is here and loved the chocolate icebox cake...her moms recipe.
Hugs for the room...:grouphug: Especially our Abbie...:hug:


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