I think that all of those memories (good and bad) make up who we are today. I think that there are times when we all dwell a bit on the negative events, etc. It is only human.

Long before I was dx, I got it in my head that when I'm old and worn out, the only thing I'd have would be my memories. I made it my mission to make as many as I could before it was too late.

I'm locked and loaded now and even the harder memories deliver a lot of meaning and understanding. Like Barb said, mine are part of the recipe for what makes me me. I'll hang on to them for now.

It's all well and good and true, that most of the events in our life, make us who we are, but, I'm here to tell you. that some bad memories are just that.....bad memories..

Okay, so that's what has your panties in a bunch these last couple days?

Happy birthday (whether you like it or not)!!!

I appreciate you whole response....but I LIKE this statement in particular!!!
Thanks!

Hey my SallyPally! I know what you mean~ when one of those ''bad'' memories finds it's way back up to me, I tend to think about it a min and sometimes even let a tear or 2 roll down my cheek, but then I try to move on. (albeit, not always real easy)

The good memories are wonderful, b/c when they do make me cry, it's from laughing at the fun/silly things that are worth remembering. Bring on the good times. ((((Salpal))))

What a good thread, and some really thoughtful answers.

Wow, here all these years I thought I was the only dum nut who
did this, always thinking of the bad things that happened in my past.

Then I try to rehash the problem and solve it again. I don't know why
I do this. It is crazy, it's over I keep telling myself, but they still keep coming
back and I keep on trying to solve everything all over again.

Tears come with some thoughts, anger comes with others.

Maybe I need a head dr. Anyone want the job?

I don't know Salpal what the answer is to this problem. Reading some
of the replys of others, I can see how some handle their bad memories, but
it just doesn't work for everyone.

I don't hate anyone, lost that feeling a long long time ago. It just seems
that I want to solve the problems that led to many situations.

Sounds real silly and crazy.


Jappy

That's it, Jappy. Solving the problem of yore, is the answer. It never gets solved so it keeps coming back..

*Out Damned Spot*..

One thing your'e not Japster, is silly or crazy. I think trying to rehash those negative situations is totally normal. I often wonder "should I have done or said something different"? I'm actually my own worst enemy and am hardest on myself. But, we all know that we can't change the past.

We may actually be ~~ dare I say, halfway normal????