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Old 10-19-2009, 06:50 PM #1
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Family has been uptight, and upset lately. Dad has been sliding downhill. VERY angry at being put in a nursing home, and spat venom at the mom every time she came near. Demanding to be taken home. He developed a fever, and stopped eating. A trip to the ER showed a UTI, and it never fully got under control. He lapsed into a deep sleep, and for 2 days hovered on the edge. He let go tonight at 5. The family was angry because we live 2 hours away, and we couldnt simply drop all and zip out the door. We were at medical appointments when the call came, and my car was in the shop, and ...the list goes on.

My DH has left to be with family. I have chosen to stay home and rest till the services are announced. I felt he needed time to be with his mom, and family without worry for the wife.

Thanks for all the support and cheerleading for him thru the last couple of months. its been a struggle, but he is at peace. He was 90, and led a hard life. Maybe peace can finally be obtained.
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Old 10-19-2009, 07:06 PM #2
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Aw Dej,

I'm sorry for your loss and your DH's loss.

Take care and don't stress that you're not there.
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My condolences.

Will you have to travel far to the services?
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So sorry about your loss. It sounds like it's been rough and I'm glad he is at peace. Take care of you and your DH.

Don't you dare feel an ounce of guilt for what you couldn't do. I get so frustrated at my in-laws when they just don't get that I can't always jump when they say so. I have spent too much time trying to make everyone happy and it just doesn't work. You did the right thing sending your hubby.
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I'm so sorry, Dej. It sounds like he had a rough time of it. He's at peace now and without pain. For that I am thankful. You and your DH are in my prayers.
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Please accept my sincere sympathy Dej in you and your husband's loss. Take care.
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Dejibo - so sorry that your FIL passed. You and your family will be in my thoughts.
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Dejibo and DH ... my thoughts and prayers will be with your family. Praying they all find peace during this sad time.
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I'm so sorry for your loss.

My Prayers are with You and DH during this sorrowful time.
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Poor guy -- sounds like he needed to go, he was so unhappy with his situation.

And I agree, don't you feel the least bit guilty about waiting at home for the services. Your husband needs to be there right now, but you certainly don't.

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