[jowen214]

A little while ago, my husband told me that he kind of had words with his mom earlier tonight. All because of me.

I've been in a relapse since beginning of October. We live 1.5 hours away from our family, so they haven't seen me and didn't realize how bad it's been. I tend to downplay things b/c I don't like to worry them. I was on the phone with my mother-in-law Sunday afternoon, and she told me she hoped I felt better and was able to come home for Thanksgiving. I agreed, and then she made the statement, "I would hate for you to be at home alone for Thanksgiving." Yes, she actually said that like she believes my husband would take our daughter and go out of town while I'm at home going through a relapse. I was in shock b/c that was so unlike her. I never mentioned it to my husband.

Well, tonight my husband had to run to town to pick up something for a pie he was making for work tomorrow, and they were talking on the phone. She started talking about Thanksgiving. We're going to her sister's house. She made the statement that if I needed to lay down in their bed, they (meaning her family) wouldn't mind. My husband told her that she didn't understand...she interrupted, saying she did...he said he raised his voice to her and told her no, she didn't understand(proud of him!!) and explained how bad it's been. Then he told her that even if I felt like being in a car for an hour and a half, that when I felt so bad, I can't handle being around a lot of people, the noise, and just didn't have the energy to do it. She then proceeded to say that if I didn't feel like going to her sister's for lunch, I could stay at her (MIL's) house while my husband, daughter, and MIL went, and everyone would understand. He didn't like or agree with that, told her so and told her that he would never ask me to do that and didn't think it was right to leave me alone.

I know people who don't have MS don't "get it", and I know they don't. It just hurts me. I guess I just needed to say it to people I know would "get it".

Thanks for listening. If anyone reads this, I hope it make sense. When I feel so crappy, I'm not always sure if what I'm saying is coming across the way I mean for it to.
jenn