Aren't mothers and wives wonderful??? I want one. No wait. Mine is dead and now I'm the wife. We tidy, give the last morsel of food to others (kids think I must be stupid, the way I give the good stuff up and stupidly do without or choose the bad, at 17 DD is started to look at me unbelievingly), we tidy and fuss, clean linens and towels to others, etc. No more!!!! MS has made me less tolerant, I really need what I need. When I ask, DH calls it nagging. I think I quit. He makes tasty meal full of grease and creams and thinks my bottom is spreading in this chair. Well Duh!!!! Any correlation you think?

Kicker - my dh still doesn't get a lot of things either. We went to a really nice restaurant. He wanted to try wine with dinner, but for some reason, didn't want to do so alone.

I don't drink wine - bad for migraines. He knows this, or should by now. He mentions wine a couple times - and this is not the first time, while I was in FL with him. I decline again. Finally I just calmly said "It's been a long time since I got kicked out of anyplace - you want it to be here? You want to start something?"

I don;t start it, but I will finish it. I almost got us *removed* from a nice steak house a few years ago.



*Stop telling me what I want to eat already!*

I know I need some "me" time each day as does dh and Mom. I called a family meeting and we all discussed our needs.

DH likes to nap after lunch while the tv is on in the living room, Mom likes to have quiet time to read in her room after breakfast and I like to do my exercises in the morning by myself and have a while to read after lunch.

We all have these times to ourselves and we all respect each others needs for time alone as well as family time.

So far it's working.

Fiber -- lots of fiber!

Like you said SalPal "meeeeeeeeee"

Last year was not a good one. With the buying of the house and remodeling, it was supposed to only take 8 weeks, it went to 9 months.

Yes just like having a new baby. Even with the contractors, I let them walk all over me, and my DS & DDIL lived their life and because I didn't complain, thought everything was going all right with me.
It was fun cooking in a small section with a toaster oven, micro, and a
electric wok they thought I could use. I have had it with keeping my mouth
shut. This year the big mouth is on a role.

I already started with christmas, when my niece wanted to come and
spend a couple of days with her 1/2 sister and two teenage boys. Can't do that. Come when you are heading back to Fla. without the boys and only
for a short time. It worked!!! I only made a pot of Pea Soup from the ham
bone left over from christmas, anything else, you are on your own to help make.

I have gained so much weight from over eating, do that when I am stressed. Going to change, have to get rid of the stress. No more spending
money for things on the family going to spend it on meeee.

The one thing I do want to do and it is for everyone

GOING TO SAY "I LOVE YOU" more often. Life is too short.

Jappy

That's why I like you, you're full of juice!!!!!

Another Amen..

Good for you!

Doesn't it seem like we ALL have been through the same thing?

We all prided ourselves on jumping through hoops for everyone for all those years.


Well, no more circus poodles here!

I'm a mother hen...always have been so it's hard for me not to just automatically say "let me do it" or "here, I'll help you".

I have two grown sons. Two men. I am a 49 year old woman with MS. Is this balanced? I don't think so. But.....I've created my own monster and I cannot expect everyone to be on board with my changes immediately. It's gonna take some time but I've got nothing better to do! I have the time!

I've explained to them that I am on a mission to save as much money as I can. My LTD will not last forever. Do they want to support me when it runs out and I'm left with not enough to cover my monthly expenses? I think not. And I don't want that either!

This year I'm not going to be so quick to jump to the rescue of everyone else. Maybe I need to be rescued sometimes.

Hello my dear Sallypally!! Since I don't make NR's resolutions anymore, I was thinking that what I really need is to try and have a more positive attitude in general.
I despise Winter and cold weather really does a number on me both physically and mentally, but since there's not a darn thing I can do about it right now, I've decided that I can and should find something positive about it.

Today it is bitter cold out, there's a snow storm coming our way, BUT hey~~the sun was out and that's something to be happy about. eh?? I'm still trying to convince myself that I can do this.

Tomorrow is another day and doggonit~ I'm going to find something positive in it. Hey, what can I say~ I'm a work in progress.