I realize this subject/poll is geared toward couples--if you live alone, feel free to share how it used to be, how it was with your parents, how you think it SHOULD be, etc.

I was chatting with some people, discussing who is responsible for what and how the "chores" are divvyed up.

One woman said she and her husband share all the chores...he does dishes half the time, she mows the lawn half the time, they take turns paying the bills, taking the dog to the vet, etc.

Another woman really didn't know...she said it was kind of whoever thought of it first, or wasn't working, whatever. Or whoever weasled out of it!

I realized Bob and I pretty much divided up the responsibilities. He ALWAYS mows, vacuums, does the dishes, recycling, etc. I A:WAYS do the cooking, the financial stuff, clean the bathrooms, change the bed, and so on. Even the things we "share" have divisions: he washes the towels and blankets, I wash the clothes. I prepare the hummingbird food, he fills the feeders.

Just curious how it works in your house? And DOES it work? Also wondering whether you made decisions as to who does what, or did it just naturally fall that way?

Feel free to elaborate...I know the poll choices are sketchy!

I live alone now and it's a darn good thing I learned to do it all myself.

Well, now, I do have a few hunks helping me with the hard stuff.

Very similar to us... Hubby does some domestic things, that are hard for me...stairs, bending over.

I do outside work, some gardening, much of the decision making about what goes where in the yard. I do all cement work as he cannot figure how to do it. We have alot of that here and upNorth, to fix...walls etc. I do some rock work, except the heavy ones. He trims trees and bushes and I direct what to cut.
He rakes and mows. I grow our stuff from seeds and take care of them until they go in the ground.

I paint, he sands. Those kind of divisions.
He pays the bills but we both decide what to buy.
I make all the health decisions. I choose some of what to buy of his clothes, he does some of his own. In essence I draw the line at the scruffy and make him get "new". Shoes are the worst!

I'd say we share quite a bit. I seem to be the rare female in our neighborhood doing the outside things tho. In fact we are basically the only ones who don't have a "service" do all their yard work!

I wish I could have chosen more than one. When I was married it wasn't exactly what I'd call "fairly divided" but he did do most of the challenging stuff like taking care of the pool and the yard. I'll gladly do the laundry and cook if someone else tends to the pool. That's one chore that is not fun! I don't miss my pool one iota.

My boys cleaned their rooms and their bathroom. Not the way I would have done it but I wasn't aiming for perfection......I just wanted them to accept the responsibility and know how to do it.

We mostly share but I usually have to tell the others when something unpleasant needs to be done, even though I'm the one who works full time.

I start the laundry/he finishes it.
I cook/he does the dishes
He cooks/i do the dishes
this week he mows, next week I mow
If I am having a hard week,I start something,he finishes it.

We have been really good at sharing from the start. He realized i was just as busy as he was, and could use a partner, not someone who needed to be cared for.

Wish there was a choice labeled "Neither of us does anything..."

I chose "one of us does almost everything". That would be me. I draw the line at a couple of things but mostly if I don't do it, it doesn't get done.

C

My husband does everything!

He washes, he cleans, he shops and he cooks. He does the gardening and he even puts the garbage out.

I do nothing !

That makes me sound lazy, but it's not like that.... it's what he insists.

Lazy? I think it makes you sound blessed!