Woe is I

curlydawg · 08-21-2011, 08:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Blessings2You

My husband, bless him, is as sympathetic to and understanding of my situation as anybody could be, but every once in a while he'll say something and I'll mentally scream "You don't get it!" Well duh, of course he doesn't get it.

It may just be a man thang. BTW, am I one of the only BAD men out here on the forum?

I find myself reading a post sometimes and I feel like, "just get over it", then I have to slap myself in the face and say, "they can't just get over it you ding-dong" But I do feel like I've made progress

Blessings2You · 08-21-2011, 11:17 AM

You are so right about that, curlydawg! When my husband was diagnosed with cancer a few years back, he said "There's no point talking about it, it is what it is. Ya just suck it up." Of course, I wanted the therapy of talking it right to death.

Kitty · 08-21-2011, 11:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Blessings2You

You are so right about that, curlydawg! When my husband was diagnosed with cancer a few years back, he said "There's no point talking about it, it is what it is. Ya just suck it up." Of course, I wanted the therapy of talking it right to death.

B2Y, I think all men have the "no point in talking about it" gene. My DH did. I often wonder how he would have responded to me being dx with MS. He passed away 4 years before I got my official dx. He was one who didn't like to talk about things. He just wanted to "fix" it. Wonder how he would have reacted to something he couldn't fix?

SallyC · 08-21-2011, 11:58 AM

I'll tell you Kelly. My DH was upset because of my MS and I believe that the stress hastened his death. I miss his love and caring soooo much..

Kitty · 08-21-2011, 12:03 PM

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Originally Posted by SallyC

I'll tell you Kelly. My DH was upset because of my MS and I believe that the stress hastened his death. I miss his love and caring soooo much..

I probably would have thought the same thing if I had been dx prior to his death.

He used to get so stressed out if any of us were sick....me or the boys. I often wonder how he would have reacted to a long term condition like MS. Usually by the end of a bout with bronchitis or a bad cold he was ready for things to get back to normal......normal meaning me doing most of the work around the house.

soxmom · 08-21-2011, 12:28 PM

Big hugs you

Sorry you are having a hard day. Kick back and watch the Sox....maybe they will win

NurseNancy · 08-24-2011, 06:16 PM

dear B2Y,

just a thought that came to my mind.
do you know of that spoon article?
i've used that before to help others understand my energy/fatigue issues and my MS in general.

i've gotten positive feedback from those i've given it to.

Blessings2You · 08-24-2011, 07:31 PM

Yes, I do have the spoon thing, I should dig it up again. I adapted it somewhat, and it really does adress that fatigue that is so common to MS, as well as some other symptoms.

It's sometimes sort of like...I don't know, like some kind chronic generalized apathy. Or something.

Jodylee · 08-25-2011, 05:54 AM

That is the perfect way to put it, B2Y. ....chronic generalized apathy!

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