[Dejibo]

O M G! I am so angry, hurt, confused and upset. My DD 28 has been having issues with her live in b/f. After her house caught fire they lost everything. Well, the house is rebuilt now, and they just got appliances and filled the home with lovely new things and had insurance money to boot. She got up in the middle of the night about a week ago to use the toilet and saw he wasnt in bed. She heard talking on the porch so she went to the window, saw he was alone, but over heard him on the phone talking about "i love you too, and I cant wait to see you too, and as soon as I get the insurance money im outta here!" style conversation. After a long pause she decided to not confront him and go to bed.

The next morning she hacked into his email and found him on 6 different dating websites and he has 6 other g/fs telling them the same thing! Tons of emails to these different women telling them how awful she is and how he cant wait to be with them...She packed his stuff put it out on the curb and changed the locks. He moved in ACROSS THE STREET! with a friend. just yesterday he got the keys to his new apartment closer to his work and away from her. He has called every friend, every family member and anyone they ever met to say how he messed up, he didnt mean it, he loves her, and cant live without her. she kept his guns till he was more stable.

He came over last night to do insurance paperwork so he can get the rest of what is owed him, he begged for the return of his grandfathers gun. He saw the baby gun key on her keyring that was on her bag and they wrestled for it. He is 6'6" and she is 5'6' she has celiac and not a strong woman, and he is a landscaper who throws lawn mowers on and off trucks all day. He forced her on the ground, took the key, and she was smacking, screaming and biting on him as she got to her feet. He held her face to the wall, and pulled the trigger. in his her new home!

Clearly she is beyond upset. He betrayed her by being with other women, she had stood her ground and demanded he see a counselor, which he was and the counselor even told my DD to not release any items to him that he could harm himself with. She asked the counselor to admit him to the hospital,and he said there was no direct threat.

My DD is driving in this direction shattered. Not only did he cheat on her, lie to her, deceive her for a long time, now he has committed this awful act of violence on her. I was so proud of her when she called HIS parents to go get him, make his arrangements and take care of whatever they needed to take care of, because she refused. The Medical examiner took almost 6 hours to come claim the body, so she couldnt even go home and cry or get her meds, or anything. what an awful night.

Can you say a prayer for my sweet child?

[jprinz99]

what a terrible and shocking thing to have been witness to! I sincerely hope that your family can recover from this tragedy. Sadly, some people are so tormented psychologically that they do irrational things and it affects those involved with them. I pray your daughter comes through this, perhaps with the skilled help from a trauma counselor.

[Koala77]

What a terrible thing to happen Dej. Has your daughter come home so that you can comfort her? I do hope that she'll agree to counselling as it may take her quite some time to come to terms with this tragedy.

Prayers going asking for the strength that she's going to need in the weeks and months to come.

[Erika]

Oh Dejibo,

What a terrible tragedy!

I am so sorry that this has happened; especially when it seemed that things with your daughter/boyfriend situation were well on the way to being resolved. Clearly she is a strong woman (the apple doesn't fall far from the tree), but surely this event will test that strength.

May you have the strength to support her and yourself through the coming days and weeks and may you both have the fortitude to press through it in the sweet embrace of understanding, compassion, love and patience for all concerned.

Prayers to you, your daughter, her boyfriend and his family.

With love, Erika

[Dejibo]

Just spoke to her. She KNOWS she was the victim here. She knows that he was clearly unstable, and lucky that he didnt take her out, then himself. She is quite angry with his counselor that he was not admitted to the hospital. She was held at the police station for 4 hours while they did residue tests on her, and questioned her. They took photos of her cell phone call records to prove she was in contact with his therapist. She knows that this was an unbelievably selfish act on his part, and he tried to use it as a punishment for her not allowing him to be part of her life. COWARD!

She is a strong young woman who already has been thru so much and is still standing. She wants to come stay with me while the forensic team cleans her home. We are going for a massage, and mani/pedi today. She is quite tearful and shaken, but i am so proud of her for not turning it on herself with guilt and should haves.

[Debbie D]

Prayers and hugs...now I hope she will try to find a therapist to talk to...this is going to be rough...

[SallyC]

I am so sad for this tragedy in your family's life. My prayers and thoughts go out to you.

[doydie]

This is so terrible but sometimes it is through the most terrible of things we gain the most strength. As Erika said she shows your strength. What a selfish man. I'm not sure he qualifies to be called a man. I just hope it is resolved quickly and not drawn out in the media

[Darlene]

My thoughts and prayers are with her. You are the best thing for her at a time like this, give her a great by hug for me.

Darlene

[Judy2]

I'm so sorry Dejibo -- as if you don't have enough stress all ready. My prayers are going up for your DD, you and the rest of your family for the strength you'll need to come out the other end of this dark tunnel. Take care.