Anne, first I want to say I am so sorry about your brother and sorry his wife didn't contact you. I feel Jim's brother will be the same and we wont know until it's over. It's not your fault. The guilt is probably much of what I felt when my father died. I mourned for what could have been. It's sad for everyone involved. I am sure he is looking down on you and knows how much you did care and love him even though your were separated. Sometimes I get mad at my dad and I tell him even though he's gone. Talk to him, write it out, do what you need to do to get passed the hurt.

Tell hubby we wish him well during his surgery. Take care of you Anne. In the end, I am sure this is what your brother would want. I know it hurts to miss his funeral but he's not there anymore Anne, his soul has moved on. Say what you need to say now as if you were there. I too will pray you find peace in all this.

Ann,

I'm so sorry for your loss.

You're going through so much all at once! I'll keep you and your DH in my prayers.

I'm just so sorry about everything. Sometimes it just feels like it's all coming at you at once. I really have no words of advice especially about the circumstances of your brother's death. I'm really pretty speechless about that. It is just a sad situation.

Oh Anne!!!




What a terrible way to find this out!! This is supposed to be how you find out about an old schoolmate....I'm so sorry!!! Seems like things always hit in three's and you got your trilogy going right now Sending prayers up for you, that you will feel better soon....

My computer was acting weird the past few weeks and last week it just didn't turn on. I was fortunate that DH bought one for his business that failed last year....but everything on my old PC is gone....make sure you back up to a CD....

Anne..bizi posted this...http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/thread45593.html

I don't know if you saw it. More hugs.

Lots of hugs coming your way as well as lots of prayers.

I am so sorry to hear about your brother and the circumstances. My heart aches for you as I cannot imagine what you are going through.

I will pray that DH surgery goes well and his recovery is quick.

Anne, Just wanted to add that I am also sorry. Take care of yourself and your hubby. Barb

Big Hugs for you and your hubby too,
and a speedy recovery for him and your tummy

Anne


Family can be weird, I know. I have one. Don't let it get to you. Right now you have to focus on Russell and you. What has gone on in the past is simply something you cannot change. It's too bad that it has happened, but dear sweet Anne, it's not your fault and not your problem. Right now, today, your focus is Russell and getting him through this surgery. That's what's important. And YOU.

Later, when you have time and can see your way through things, send your sister in law a card. Find one that's appropriate. That's all that's needed.

So move forward and remember that you have a wonderful supporting family here .... don't worry about anything else, it will all take care of itself!

Keep us posted about Russell's surgery and know that we care about you and we are here for you!

Awwww, (((Koala))). You are such a great friend and supporter to all who come to NT. So sorry you are having a hard time right now and for the loss of your brother.

I was looking at my postcards from Tasmania just this morning and thinking of you. Someday I hope to come for a visit to see you and your beautiful backyard birdies! Then I can give you a real hug!

But for now I'll just have to send you a little cybersqueeze:

Be well, Anne, and know that we are sending happy thoughts across the ocean to you on your little island.