You need hugs...

I don't know...maybe DH is scared for you.

Dear Julie,

My husband went through something similar and came out of it. I hope yours will regain his sensibility soon. Try not to worry too much about it sweetie.

Hi Julie - Sorry you had a fight with DH. You all have a lot of changes going on right now and it can easily be overwhelming for you and DH as well as all the kids. When 1 person in the family is ill, it affects the whole family. However, the whole family needs to pull together and get through this.

The kids need to pitch in and do their part as well as DH.

As you know I come from a large family (5 brothers, 4 sisters, each of us about a year apart give or take). My Mom was the Queen of running an organized household. She amazes me. We had chores and she would make a chore chart that had to be followed. Funny - there is a picture of my youngest sister sitting in the kitchen smiling and behind her is the chore chart. In the picture you can see clearly who had what chores. My sister must have been 2 or 3 and she had chores! LOL. We tease my Mom about child labor. Mind you, she was teamed up with an older sibling for what ever chore she had. We all did our part.

Stay with me as there is a point to this. When I was about 10 or 11 we lived in Illinois. One winter my Mom and youngest brother were going to Fox River Grove, I think, and another car was heading toward, skidded on the ice and slammed in to my Mom. My Mom almost died in that accident. She was very luck as a piece of glass came within 1/8 of inch from her jugular vein. My Mom was in the hospital for a while. When she came home she was laid up and couldn't do anything. She had to have a few surgeries.

Because she ran such an organized household, us kids kept up on the chores and did the cooking, laundry, etc. taking turns. I remember my Dad being so grumpy and irritable during that time. He was so worried about my Mom. He also had to help in keeping things going at home. It was a very stressful time for my Dad as well as my Mom and us kids. But we pulled together and made it through all of that. My Mom's organization of the household and her "chore chart" helped us all during that time. Because we had chores and learned how to do so many things we were able to keep things going.

You DH may be feeling some of the same type of stress my Dad. You yourself may be feeling the same type of stress that my Mom felt. There is nothing worse than feeling helpless as a wife and mother. The kids probably sense the tension and imbalance in the home, which in turn they act up adding more stress for you.

I am glad you have a nanny helping you out. That's awesome and I am sure such a huge relief to you to have that extra help with the kids. Is it possible to have someone come and help with the cleaning?

Hang in there. I keep you in my prayers this evening.