Today marks the 7 year anniversary of my DH's passing. I don't get as emotional as I used to....which makes me sort of sad. I feel like I ought to be weepy and I'm not. I guess that's just a sign that I'm moving in the right direction. I tend to remember Tim with a smile now and not the tears that came with the first several anniversaries. It's not that I don't miss him...I will always miss him and the life that we could have had together. But, I am a firm believer that I will see him again. So, this anniversary has not been so bad - I put a flower on the crypt each year (a silk flower) and bring home the one I left the last year if it's still there. I think he would be proud of me.

why would you weep Kelly he loved you and you loved him today you should remember the bright things the happy moments, he would not want you to weep he would rather see your pretty smile, do you think as he looks down if he saw you cry, do you think he would be happy, I dont think so

I know we miss our loved ones and we do, but now is the time to think back of when he slipped and made you laugh so hard you had to run in the house or thoughts likes that

not crying as much doesnt mean you didnt or dont love him, he will always be there and always be close to your heart

My widowed friend said, "It doesn't get easier, but it does get less frequent." Praying for you.

I think you are doing just great Kelly. I think your dh would be really
proud of you.

You are doing great Kelly. I bet he's smiling down at you right now. He would want you to be happy.

You know, that actually happened, Frank! We were doing fireworks in the front yard and one of them started "chasing" him and he tried to run and slipped on the damp grass. Slid all the way down the hill. I had to turn around so he wouldn't see me laughing!

dear kitty...

I wanted to thank you for posting this today...for I was feeling a bit...je ne sais quoi today...

my father's anniversary was four days ago and I was surprised that I didn't cry either...

yet, when I read yours today it brought tears to my eyes...not sad ones, but one that is of an attestation of what I was feeling...

I don't think it gets easier but does get less frequent as Blessing2u has said...

I also think it is a progression of the heart...

when we first miss someone, we have certain types of emotions that will blind us or overwhelm us and overcome the other ones...and as time goes by, the other ones then start to come back and ease out or balance out the other ones...and all those emotions will probably do a see-saw from time to time...

the sadness and anger are now replaced with laughter and tenderness...but the love,which is the constant never doth change...it stays through the bitterness, through the anger, through the sadness, through the laughter, through the smiles...

it is so very powerful...

your heart did an evolution but the love that it contains never waivered

I am so happy for you that you can smile and laugh now and remember those tender moments. To see him in such light and to know that he loves you and is proud of you. I am using present tense. Of course...

I've read something last year about electromagnetic waves that says when they did an imaging of the heart, it contained such a strong electromagnectic field that they are wondering that there is a certain truth to the "HEART" feeling "pain" or "love"

I deeply believe in it...and that your holding on to him with that strong love...the pain has now become the tenderness that you are feeling....(it might also mean that you are a strong magnet...LOL)

glad that you are enjoying the "now"....

even though painful, but more tender....

sorry to post such long and boring post...

it just really resonated within me somehow today...

you probably know I usually joke and don't get too serious...but I just felt compelled to say a thank you and that I am smiling here with you through some happy tears...

((((HUGS))))

Your thread was so great to read...I can imagine that your dear hubby feels glad that you can remember him with gratitude for what you both shared; it must mean so much to him that you have been able to let go of the pain and move forward. Letting go doesn't mean that we love them less; it means that the memories and love shared sustain us while we go onward.

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts...we all learned from them today.

I am coming up on the 5th anniversary of my dad's passing away, and every year around this time, we take my nephews out fishing in "Grandpa Ted's boat". We scattered my dad's ashes into the water at the end of the jetty where we used to fish together several years ago and as we were scattering them at sunset, a flight of pelicans came by and I swear one of them peeled off leaving the rest flying the missing man formation.

His dream for retirement was to buy a sailboat and live on the water...so a pelican is a perfect symbol for him. Ever since that day, when we go out fishing in his old boat (especially when the nephews are with us) there always seem to be pelicans flying around us and fishing nearby. I am confident that our loved ones keep an eye on us even after they pass and I am confident that your husband is watching and is proud of you kelly.

you're in my thoughts kelly