She sounds so very special. Hugs, Jules

I'm a Grandmom, now and I still miss my Grandmas. I had a special bond with both of them and still think of them often..

Thank Gazzy for this lovely thread..

Yeah, my Grandmother was in and out of the hospital the last 3 yrs too, and every other time I was there to visit, bring her things, advocate her rights, etc. Unfortunately I was simply unable to that last time . . .

My sister's were/are carrying around bitterness about an entirely different issue, which really has more to do with jealousy about my (good) relationships with certain family members, including her. They have "selective memory" on some events too .... which if I was the resentful type, I could be very bitter about. But that's a whole new kettle of fish . . .

There is positively no excuse for not picking up a phone and tell someone their Grandma died, even IF there is/was bad blood. That's a major control issue which will come back to bite them in the bottom one day. Karma, it's a beautiful thing.

My Grandma wanted to die for the last 20+ yrs, after outliving her 3rd husband (all others had died along the way). In fact, she had some kind of emergency aneurysm-thingy, and she was so mad that we had authorized surgery to fix it. Unfortunately our options were limited because they said she would live even without the operation, but would be permanently connected to machines if she did. We thought it was better to give her a chance at keeping her independance then the alternative . . . but she just wanted to die (which wasn't an "option" at the time).

I miss my Grandma ~ she was so wise and astute. I know she is happy now though, at peace with her one and only "true love".

Cherie

Hey gazzy! I've been thinking of my Gram alot lately too. I think it must be the time of year. She was my soul sister and I will always miss her.

About going to the cemetary? I do understand what your'e saying. After my Mother's funeral, we went back up to the cemetary and to see her name on a marker, as her stone wasn't there yet, was like a slap in the face. It proved that YES, she was really gone.

Then, when her stone was placed, it was so surreal~ there it was in bold engraving; her name, death date, etc. How could that be?? It took me many months to accept it and now I can visit their sites and not totally fall apart. I keep thinking my Mother would say "get on w/your life, I'm w/Dad now and I'm ok* My G'parents' graves are next to my folk's, so I don't have to travel to diff places.

Just remember your Grandma loved you in such a special way. I truly believe a Gram's love is special. Take care Gazzy.

s to you. I too got sad when I posted on that thread. I lost
'my gramma last January and this will be the first xmas without her. Im
going to make the best pierogi ever in honor of her. s, I
know just how you feel.

Gaz, I thought the same thing! I only had my mom's parents also. My dad's mom passed 9 years before I was born and his dad passed when I was 8. I do remember him but not a lot.

But, I was very close to my mom's parents. My Gram was like a mother to me. She passed in Aug 1996. Like you I have never been to her grave except the day we burried her. I miss her every single day. I was with her when she passed. She was my best friend.

Christmas is hard for we would always gather at her house on Christmas Eve for Sheppards Pie and her famous cheesecake. Christmas Eve just isn't the same since she has been gone.

But, I have learned that she is still with me, right DM? When I need her I just need to talk to her and she is right there on my right shoulder.