[dawn3063]

Ok, Here is my Dilemma,

The company that my husband works for has an opening in Tucson. Which is great since my family is there and I will have so much support and help when I need it. I knew we were going to move back to Tucson one day but I didn't think it was going to happen so soon and I certainly thought we would have more time.

But here is the problem... If he accepts this position we only have 2 months to put our house up for sale, pack it up and find another home in the Tucson area to buy and move into ...

How in the world are we going to be able to get all this done in 2 months .
Hubby said not to worry he will take care of it. If I pack a box I'll be in a flair for a couple of days... He is very aware of this and doesn't want me to do much of anything... But...
I feel bad for him since I know he can only do so much and work too.

I also just started seeing my new PMD two months ago and I really like him... How do I even begin to transfer to another PMD? How do they continue my pain meds? They do have a Pain Management center at the University of Arizona but I have no idea how long it will take me to transfer and get an appt to see them... Then there are the other Dr's.

Oh, I feel so overwhelmed right now ... Please, if anyone can give me some advice on how to get through all this I would really appreciate it...
It's a chance that doesn't come along very often for us and the company pays for the movers etc.

I just want to keep these flairs down and I have already been crying because of the anxiety I am causing myself over something that hasn't even happened yet...

&
Dawn

[Peg24]

Dawn,

Bless your heart!!!

Calm down and take a deep breath!

I can relate to that pack and up and moving after being military for 20 years. It does put knots in your stomach.

Don't feel bad that your husband has said HE will take care of it. He knows you would help if you could, but you just can't and he understands that.

Talk with your PMD and ask him if he wouldn't mind checking and advising you on a new PMD in the Tucson area. Maybe he will even take the time to call and speak with him. Let him know your anxieties about it.

You say your family is there so you will have more support? Wonderful! You need that. Embrace it and feel great that you will be near your family again to catch up on lost time apart. You know how I feel about that. Family is important.

I think when you start looking for a new place to live, you will start to get excited and you will feel better. That was the way it was for me.

For now, don't let this upset you sweetie.......just take a deep breath and go with it.

Big Hugs!!!!

Peggy

[olecyn]

O Dawn,
Put me in ur shoes.
I'd be freakin' too.
Geeze, the sacrifices we make due to TOS
However, look at the sacrifices our fam has made for us.
I Know its no help but thats how I personally have to look at what life has dealt me.

Peg is so right...
Take a deep breath.
Ur hubby knows u cannot do what u used to do and what flare's u.
Hopefully, his company can understand the need for support and get a transfer company to come help.
Pay college kids to come help and be the master planner I know u can.
Think of it as an adventure in supporting ur husband.
I know, I know...I'm full of it

Stress is NOT our friend so shoo it away and get into a peaceful, positive place.
Let life and the ship rock you peacefully!
One moment at a time.
As Scarlet O Hara said "I'll Think About It Tomorrow".
XXOO

[olecyn]

Beautifully expressed for our Dawn of the Day!

Originally Posted by Peg24

Dawn,

Bless your heart!!!

Calm down and take a deep breath!

I can relate to that pack and up and moving after being military for 20 years. It does put knots in your stomach.

Don't feel bad that your husband has said HE will take care of it. He knows you would help if you could, but you just can't and he understands that.

Talk with your PMD and ask him if he wouldn't mind checking and advising you on a new PMD in the Tucson area. Maybe he will even take the time to call and speak with him. Let him know your anxieties about it.

You say your family is there so you will have more support? Wonderful! You need that. Embrace it and feel great that you will be near your family again to catch up on lost time apart. You know how I feel about that. Family is important.

I think when you start looking for a new place to live, you will start to get excited and you will feel better. That was the way it was for me.

For now, don't let this upset you sweetie.......just take a deep breath and go with it.

Big Hugs!!!!

Peggy

[olecyn]

I can so relate to the anxiety.
It comes full force cause we no longer have the ability to physically do what our mind says we can and physically accomplish.
So maddening.
Peggy said it all so beautifully.

Originally Posted by dawn3063

Ok, Here is my Dilemma,

The company that my husband works for has an opening in Tucson. Which is great since my family is there and I will have so much support and help when I need it. I knew we were going to move back to Tucson one day but I didn't think it was going to happen so soon and I certainly thought we would have more time.

But here is the problem... If he accepts this position we only have 2 months to put our house up for sale, pack it up and find another home in the Tucson area to buy and move into ...

How in the world are we going to be able to get all this done in 2 months .
Hubby said not to worry he will take care of it. If I pack a box I'll be in a flair for a couple of days... He is very aware of this and doesn't want me to do much of anything... But...
I feel bad for him since I know he can only do so much and work too.

I also just started seeing my new PMD two months ago and I really like him... How do I even begin to transfer to another PMD? How do they continue my pain meds? They do have a Pain Management center at the University of Arizona but I have no idea how long it will take me to transfer and get an appt to see them... Then there are the other Dr's.

Oh, I feel so overwhelmed right now ... Please, if anyone can give me some advice on how to get through all this I would really appreciate it...
It's a chance that doesn't come along very often for us and the company pays for the movers etc.

I just want to keep these flairs down and I have already been crying because of the anxiety I am causing myself over something that hasn't even happened yet...

&
Dawn

[flippnout]

Dawn you must relax I know it is hard to in this situation. Stress is B-A-D so breath and relax. This is a big move, you will be closer to family right and like you said support your new doc will help you I'm sure if youtalk to him. As for moving stay away from boxes and do not overwhelm you self, it will do you no good and may make the move harder being down so much.

Mabey you can coordinate everything, a little at a time. GOOD LUCK

[dawn3063]

Oh, Man...

I Love You Guys... You’re all da Bomb...
I guess I spoke too soon... Hubby and I discussed it and he thinks we should wait for the opportunity to arise again at a later date. He said that it will come up again it will just be towards the end of next year.

He was concerned that my pain levels still aren't yet in control and he is hoping that my PMD can have some time with me to work on better pain management and possibly a spinal cord stimulator.

We are putting our AZ property which is a beautiful lot in the foothills up for sale this weekend. We had planned on building our dream home there once we retired but when this whole disability issue happened with me... Well, the old home equity loans were taken out and that kind of put us in the you know what... The Big Dumper...

So what we are going to do is sell the AZ property pay off the home equity loan and then when the next opportunity comes up we will be better prepared money wise and buy a home already built in the same area. Hopefully my RSD will be more in control and things will go much more smoothly...

I really just wanted to get back to my Mom, she is getting older and I sure would like to spend the quality time with her while she is still able to get out and have fun doing the things that mothers and daughters love to do together.

I am so thankful for my husband who is so caring and considerate of my condition . I just hope that we are doing the right thing by staying put at this time...

Thank you so much for all your suggestions... I was so stressed last night and let me tell you it didn't help my pain levels..

Hugs to all..
Like I said... Your all da Bomb..
Dawn

[olecyn]

To hear that
What a relief for you.
Your hubby is so like mine.
Caring and adjusting to to life we now have with TOS
What a guy!

You guys know how to make LEMONADE together

[watsonsh]

I'm gone from the board for one day and you try to pick up and move on me?

OMG my stomach sank when I read the headline but amd soooooo glad that it has worked it self out in the short run. And if you had to move we would have helped you out. We could have matched the folks with one good left arm with those with one good right arm and packed in teams. In all seriousness we would have been there for you like you have been there for us.

You do have a supportive and amazing hubby! YAY Hubby!!!!!! Give him a hug for me.

I am sorry that you will sell your land. But dont worry you will get there and build your dream home and spend time with your mom. It will all work out.

I am glad that you have more time to spend with your pain mangement doc. And you can start atleast researching and asking about pain management places in tuscon.

(((((((((((((hugs )))))))))))))) now go shopping and buy yourself a present for getting through this....its my new therapy method and its working. keeps the endorphins up..till the bills come anyway.

[flippnout]

Good for you that you are not moving I'm sure the stress yesterday is still with you though so take it easy and enjoy where you are at