I would agree that unless he has some strange symptom I haven't heard about (which is possible I guess) he shouldn't need you to be always there. Even at my worst when I couldn't do much at all my wife was out at work full time every weekday - she had to do almost all the cooking, cleaning etc because I couldn't really stand up for any useful length of time but she certainly didn't have to stay at home with me constantly.

You and your son deserve some time out of the house trying to do something enjoyable. And you'll be less use to your husbnd if you end up having some sort of nervous breakdown so it's better for him if you do things which reduce your stress levels too.

And try not to take the video and all the things you 'should' be doing as a criticism. It sounds to me like you are very caring and are doing a great job in very difficult circumstances .

It is VERY hard. When I got my concussion, my husband was already caring for his mother (living with us) who was dying of cancer. I had been mostly responsible for our six-year-old son. Then I got concussed, and suddenly it all landed on him. It was totally overwhelming for him, and I felt frustrated and helpless because I knew how much he needed my help and I just COULDN'T do the things I wanted to in order to help him.

Do, please, take care of yourself.

If he needs that level of attention, are there some friends that could come sit with him for short times so you could get away? I had a friend who would come most days and take me out for a walk. That was very helpful (got me out of the house, gave me some exercise, and gave my husband a break that he wasn't responsible for).

Caregiver support group sounds very good too. Maybe not even for TBI caregivers, just for caregivers in general. Check with your local hospital or even family practice?

You are doing a great job. It's so hard, especially when it sounds like you've had a lot of other stressful things going on even before the injury.