AIMac,

Please clarify for some of us what you refer as "an RTA".
I'm unclear on just what it is that was the precipitator of your head injury.

Many thanks,
Theta

I think RTA may mean Road Traffic Accident.

AIM,

I think you may be having seizures during sleep that prevents your brain from properly storing short term memories from the day before as long term memories. This may be a result of a sleep disorder or poor blood flow to the brain when you are sleeping.

When I have a bad night's sleep, I have similar memory problems. Rather than frustrating anybody, I just accept that I don't remember much of yesterday.

There may be other things at play. Tell us more about your injury and ongoing symptoms and we may be able to help more.

My best to you.

IMO memory can be over rated. When every day is a slog thru pain and confusion being obsessed with ones previous ability to recall is counter productive. I felt better and stressed less when I stopped worrying about it.

I still forget. If I have something in my hand and put it down, I know I may forget about it completely. This comes into play in a professional setting. But if you are here hopefully healing is your priority and not working. I am going on 3 weeks return to work.

The memory issue can be a big deal but I am restricted on duties and refuse to put or allow myself to be put in an unsafe position. In my line of work protocol and safety standards must be met. If not then my health and life as well as others are risked.

What I know all to well about memory is with a good safety net. Such as spouse, friends, family and hopefully one or more DR's memory matters very little. Where it does seem to matter is work performance. But then again if ones life centers around work and only work it does not leave much room for anything else. There is a world out there that has nothing to do with work and one only needs to step into it.

Can not stress how important it is to just be able to be in the moment and be aware. So many little success's and joys will happen and if we are not paying attention they will slip away while we are unaware.

It's not so much that I can't remember things, it's that there is no memory of them. I don't keep asking about yesterday because I don't know that I can't remember yesterday. The first couple of times I can remember knowing that I had no memory of the previous day, but since then it's always a complete blank. I just lose how ever many hours.
TEA is a recognised syndrome related to Temporal Lobe Epilepsy as the temporal lobe is to do with memory. There is no cure so it's something I must live with. It would be so good to find somebody else who has the same condition. Maybe I could find out what the future holds for me.

Your future is bright. There are many memory compensating skills for you to learn. The first is simply learning to not depend on your short term memory. I simply tell people that I have no clue to what happened yesterday. Even my wife forgets that I have memory problems.

Research shows that using smart phones to keep track of events and ideas can be very beneficial for people with memory problems. If I am working on a project and need to walk away, I make a note of where I am in the project and what the next step should be. This helps prevent me trying to do the same work over again.

Hope you can find similar skills. I ma sure the are plenty of ideas here for living with poor memory.

My best to you.

Thanks for your reply and encouraging comments, but when I say I have no short term memory I mean that I won't remember what you just said to me, what I have just done, whether I've eaten, let alone what it was and if I enjoyed it! It's the same as it was immediately after my head injury. I spent 2 weeks "asleep" in rehab. When I "woke up" I had no memory of any of it. It is just like being asleep and when you wake up you can't remember anything. Not even your dreams.
My general memory is getting steadily worse. I do write myself cryptic notes to remind me of things, but then can't remember what they mean! My husband is very patient with me but does get irritated when I can't remember holidays etc. The difference is that if he reminds me of what we did and describes the place I can then remember.
My main concern is that other people seem to associate poor memory with stupidity and often bypass me and talk to my husband. My doctor has actually done that! "And how is your wife"!

I would confront Dr. directly about that. We all deserve respect and that is very disrespectful treatment. I kept a health journal for months, but I wrote everything in it. While my memory is no where near as bad as you describe. It is totally unreliable.

It took me about 3 months to figure out how bad it is. I have spent days trying to remember people I know/knew and drawn a complete blank. No names, faces, or any aspect. My wife has seen me turning in circles in the living room from being confused and not knowing what I was doing.

After months of going nuts about this I learned to let it go. It has caused some issues with bills and lawyers.... But all in all I am still here, the world still turns. I am having more good days than bad. So IMO memory is over rated or maybe I have forgotten how critical it is. Either way I am less stressed I know there is nothing I can do about it. I have a digital recorder and I write lots of notes. But I forget to use one of just lose the other.