[macdebbie]

I feel like I am living in a nightmare right now.

5 days from today will be one year since the car accident where I was hit by a drunk hit and run driver and suffered a concussion and subsequent PCS.

The road to recovery has been slow, confusing, scary, and frustrating. Some moments I felt like I was alone in never never land.

I saw a local neurologist for months who did nothing to help me - just told me "things take time" and "do what you can", and then through the great people on this board I found help through a neuropsych who pinpointed exactly what was wrong with me and got me the help I needed. Because of that interaction, through therapy to work on memory and cognitive issues, I was able to learn coping and compensation strategies, start driving again, and start feeling like I could live a normal life.

But the hardest part of my recovery has been work. Throughout my ordeal they have treated me badly, made derogatory comments (like to I have to wear a hat with wires sticking out of it during therapy), called me a "liability".

I have been open and honest with them throughout - told them that I have a MTBI, was seeking treatment, it was nothing that meant I couldn't perform my job - and I have.

I was only out of work a week and a half, and afraid for my job, went back. During my time out the Ops Mgr and Admin were on the web, searching PCS, and told my boss that I could be out for MONTHS. When I first came back to work - first at 4 hours, they told me I had "better not make any mistakes" and I didn't. No one did my work for me. But the workload was so large, I increased quickly to 8, and couldn't do it. So cut back to 6, and stayed at that level.

Things started happening to me at work. I was asked to keep a "log" of every minute of my day. I was told I couldn't use the printer, even though it was easier for me to read things printed rather than on the computer screen. I was given work with impossible deadlines. I have had work and more work piled on, and when I have asked my supervisor to prioritize as I cannot possibly get what she asks done in the time I am there, she refuses to prioritize, tells me that is my job to prioritize my work, yet holds me to the deadlines she sets.

When I was discharged from my therapy, I was cleared to return to work for 7 hours, gradually increasing to 8. It was a happy day for me, and I was excited to tell my employer the good news, only to be told "No", even though my boss was aware that that was the goal at the end of my 8 week course of therapy.

Things have continued to happen to me at work that I feel are a direct result of my PCS. The worst is they terminated my securities licenses (I am in financial service), telling me that my job functions "no longer required" me to be licensed as they "did not need me to cover for trades any longer". This obviously affects my salary if I am let go and have to find another job (they did not reduce my pay where I am).

After I told my boss I would need to go to the Labor Board to seek unemployment for the reduced hours, they let my up my hours - one month after I asked - but odd things continue to happen at work - to only me. I am singled out for things others are not. Yesterday - on my way out the door no less - I was asked to sign a document giving them access to my email "in case something happened to me". No one else was presented with this document, which doesn't make sense anyway as disaster recovery plans allow for email access if something happens to an employee.

It seems to me that they are trying force me out. I am watched like a hawk, and I feel it is a case of discrimination, because these things are happening to no one else - not being able to use the printer, etc., but because we are so small - 8 people, 2 of them PT, one the owner, one his wife - I feel I have no recourse or protection. We are not covered by FMLA or ADA. And my boss is not one to care about legal procedures or employee protections anyway.

I can't afford not to work. I actually love my job and am good at it. I've been there 3+ years. I come in early, shut my door, and don't get up all day. I am a "nose to the grindstone" type of worker, always have had a strong work ethic. I've bent over backward for my company. I don't even take lunch or breaks during the day, while others flit around and chat and socialize half the day, come in half hour, hour late every day and don't get treated the way I am.

I can't understand the insensitive and bad treatment. It almost borders on harassment. I had not made ONE mistake since I have been back. I have been extremely careful. Clients love me and I do a good job. I may be a "tad" slower reading things on the computer, and I have asked to have all instructions clear and in writing for my work but that has my only "accommodation" request. I must write everything down due to my ST memory issues, but I always have anyway, it's just the way I work. My therapist said on discharge that she thought I was doing "remarkable" and should have NO issues at all, as long as I had clear instructions at work and wrote things down. In fact she wanted me to come to her support group as an example to people of how you could move on and be successful after a MTBI.

I am hurt and baffled and scared, and SO disappointed, as I have worked so very hard over the last year.

Has anyone else been through something similar? How did you handle it? I am at a loss as to what to do....

[Job]

Thats major harrasment and you shouldent have to put up with that.
Doesent your insurance cover medical and loss of income?
Also ive found that the more work you do and bend over backwards the more they take advantage of you , in some places the bad employees get treated better than the good.

[Jomar]

Even though a small office I believe they have to follow the basic non discrimination laws, hostile work place etc??

You probably can't change the place you are at..
but call some lawyers or do some searches online at some legal based websites about discrimination & hostile work place..
Your state website might have info on this too in the employment section..
Maybe even free or low cost help...

Find out as much as you can before signing with any atty, they may try to get you to sign up right away, and it's best to "interview" quite a few and look them up online for reviews before signing on if you go that route..


If an atty feels there is a good cause /case - one option might be an official letter to employer stating they may "need to change their ways or face a lawsuit" in legal language of course..

Make a record/journal of what is going on, a time line so to speak as best you can - written documentation is very important..if it goes forward to legal action..

[Chemar]

Hi
If you Google workplace discrimination after injury you will find a lot of info.

They are not allowed to be treating you this way, by law, as far as I know.

I would definitely find someone who can advocate on your behalf.

[rmschaver]

Start documenting everything. Forward your emails to your personal email. Get all your employers request in writing or email. Have a direct and frank conversation to see what thier reservations are. Even though you love your work it sounds like they don't love you.

As unfair as it maybe you may want to cut your losses. A legal fight will be ugly, stressfull and not a quick action. If they are confronted it may indicate to them your are still on your toes just otherwise abled. Or they may get defensive and just excuse away thier behaviour.

I am so sorry you are experiencing this. I know what it feels like as I am kn a very similar boat.

[Mokey]

I am sorry this is happening to you. If it makes you feel any better, I have had a horrible treatment since my injury. My boss is very cruel and has harassed me, lied and treated me like garbage since my injury. I think it makes it more cruel as we are struggling to emerge from our respective living hells.

I agree that you are being harassed and discriminated against. But I also agree that thise battles take their toll on the victims. I would try to look for work elsewhere at the same time as you plan a survival strategy for staying. Perhaps y can at least end up with a settlement.

I don't know what I will do...it is so difficult. Fighting discrimination is very hard, but oh so necessary. Sigh. Hang in there!

[macdebbie]

It appears that I will have to sign the access to my email form as not doing so from what I have read MAY signify insubordination and I could be disqualified for unemployment. However, I am concerned that our compliance department said in now way should I allow another employee access to my email. I have no idea if I am being set up. Especially since I am the only one being asked to sign this "document" that came out of the blue, which I'm sure I was asked to sign as I walked out the door so I wouldn't have time to think about it. So I am between a rock and a hard place here... Why do employers have to be so cruel?

[jinga]

Originally Posted by macdebbie

It appears that I will have to sign the access to my email form as not doing so from what I have read MAY signify insubordination and I could be disqualified for unemployment. However, I am concerned that our compliance department said in now way should I allow another employee access to my email. I have no idea if I am being set up. Especially since I am the only one being asked to sign this "document" that came out of the blue, which I'm sure I was asked to sign as I walked out the door so I wouldn't have time to think about it. So I am between a rock and a hard place here... Why do employers have to be so cruel?

Just know you are not alone by any means. What you describe is very similar to my own story. Try and document all you can. File EEOC within limits. PCS should qualify for ADA and if nothing else it puts your ER on notice that you're fed up with their BS. My ER actions have had a negative impact on my recovery due to many of the things you expressed happening to you by your co-workers\bosses. Because of the lack of medical understanding of mtbi - IC and ER can easily get away with a lot more than they should and they take full adv of it. I found that neurologist are of no help with mtbi and many medical providers have a totally unrealistic understanding of what ER's require for job performance and what corporate america is doing to injured\sick workers in the workplace.

[macdebbie]

You make a very good point. It's criminal that there is so little recourse/help. ADA doesn't apply here as my company is under 15 employees. I called EEOC who was sympathetic, but warned that once I filed, an investigation would start, and if I think my work life is a living Hell now, I can only imagine once my ER got notice of my complaint how much they would turn up the heat.

In instances where they really bear down - pressuring me to do the impossible with deadlines, nit-picking the smallest things (that everyone does) over and over, it causes a relapse and I get headaches, more confusion, and can't think straight. My neuropsych understands, and says this is VERY detrimental to my recovery, however, he said that he "does not get involved in employer situations". Seems no one does.

I have been warned also that legal proceedings can be torturous, laborious, and lengthy, not to mention expensive, and I have no money to fight this. Plus, my ER is very crafty and I have no doubt could talk their way out of things or manufacture things.

My family attorney - who helped navigate the mountain of paperwork with the car insurance claims and subsequent PIP payment said he could said a "warning" letter to my ER, but again, I can just imagine how very hard my work life would be made, when here I have done nothing wrong except get in a car accident and am being treated like a piece of dirt.

[Jomar]

Did you sign the email permission paper already??

If you get any personal or medical messages to it I sure wouldn't, I don't think they can ask this... esp if you are still working there..

It's like if hiring personnel- ask for your facebook log in info , no way..
I think that practice has been stopped...for the most part..