Sorry everyone if I was not being clear. This question is not subjective in the sense that I am talking about myself. I am just trying to incorporate the new knowledge I gained from this experience into how I view the world and how I view a person. For instance, if I cannot control my anger, can I really complain if someone else is being angry? I think knowing that a lot of "who we are" are necessarily not in our control helps us accept people as they come rather than blaming or criticizing them. This is meant to be constructive.