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I was the subject of a serious @$$-chewing at my WW meeting today. A long-time member let me know in front of everyone there that I was monopolizing the meetings (although the leader had never said anything about that to me, and I would think she would have), and that, according to her, people had left because of it! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I thanked her for letting me know, asked why she (or anyone else) hadn't said anything before, and then I left (the meeting was ending), saving my tears 'til I got home. I am usually very Teflon-like in nature about such things, having experienced a great deal of bullying as a kid and learning the hard way to shrug such things off, but the humiliation overwhelmed me. ![]() The WW board was very sweet and validated everything I felt, and my mom said similar things. I feel somewhat better now, but I really think it was an ego trip for her to do that, and she's probably quite jealous, although she hasn't had to lose as much and is actually smaller. I realized a few times before that my excitement over the program and the results I have seen over the past nearly-14 months are influencing my ability to contain my enthusiasm and excitement, but am I right to think she should have said something to the leader or taken me aside and told me, rather than taking me down in front of everyone?? How do you think I should deal with her at future meetings? I don't think she has any clue how I feel, because I was still trying to collect myself when I left. ![]() LIZARD, still wounded, but recovering Last edited by LIZARD; 10-14-2006 at 12:42 PM. |
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Oh Liz I am so sorry. Why don't you write her a little note and say you hope she feels better now.
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you keep on cheering people on and keeping them motivated!!
people need to hear success stories, so they know they can do it too! can you email this lady? maybe ask her if something else is bothering her? mny times somebody will strike out to hurt someone becasue they are hurting themselves. steal the thunder kwim? |
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Thank you both so much!
![]() ![]() ![]() LIZARD, who's gettin' over it ![]() |
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Dear Liz,
I am so sorry that you had to put up with that....she sounds really controling. You don't deserve her grief in the slightest! Awful that she upset you. (((HUGS))) bizi
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. Hattie the black and white one wrestling with hazel, calico. lost hattie to cancer..... Happiness is a decision.... 150mg of lamictal 2x a day haldol 5mg 2x a day 1mg of cogentin 2x a day klonipin , 1mg at night I will not give up in this weight loss journey, nor this need to be AF. 3-19-13=156, 6-7-13=139, 8-19-13=149, 11-12-13=140, 6-28-14=157, 7-24-14=149, 9-24-14=144, 1-12-15=164, 2-28-15=149, 4-21-15=143, 6-26-15=138.5, 7-22-15=146, 8-24-15=151, 9-15-15=145, 11-1-15=137, 11-29-15=143, 1-4-16=152, 1-26-16=144, 2-24-16=150, 8-15-16=163, 1-4-17=169, 9-20-17=174, 11-17-17=185.6, 3-22-18=167.9, 8-31-18= 176.3, 3-6-19=190.8 5-30-20=176, 1-4-21=202, 10-4-21= 200.8,12-10-21=186, 3-26-22=180.3, 7-30-22=188, 10-15-22=180.9, |
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Hi Liz, sorry about the lady at your meeting. The best way to handle it is to walk in there with your head held high. Don't let somebody else's pettiness bring you down. The leader of the meeting should have stopped here but she may have been caught off guard. Anyway, be proud of your weight loss and show it in that big smile on your face everytime you walk in the door to your meeting. As I say kill em with kindness, mean people don't know how to handle it...Sue
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Thanks, darlin'.
![]() I'm gonna make it. ![]() ![]() ![]() LIZARD, over it and trying to help someone with a much bigger problem ![]() |
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Liz~
Sorry you had to go through that honey! I can only imagine how you must have felt! (((Liz))) You DO know it was all out of jealousy, right? You know, in a strange way, it was good she said it to you publicly. Had she said it to you privately, it's so bizarre, that people would have a tough time believing you. It would be hard to believe that someone could be THAT jealous, envious and asinine without actually seeing it yourself. You illustrated the classy person you are Liz by your reaction to her attack; especially being blindsided like that. I applaud your self-restraint. I'm not sure how I would have reacted, but I'm thinking it might have involved 4 letter words. ![]() Like you mentioned, I would talk to the leader before the next meeting just to get her thoughts on the situation. I would ask her opinion about the comment of losing members because of you. Like you, I'd be willing to bet that was made up. I agree with SueBabe that you should just walk in the meeting as if nothing happened. You did nothing wrong; she did. She showed the whole room what kind of person she is. She did it to herself. That's why no one backed her up. Liz, I'm proud of you for losing that much weight! That is a HUGE accomplishment! You are an inspiration to all of us here (and there). She was jealous that you were getting the attention instead of her. Keep on being Liz--YOU GO GIRL!!! Hugs, Jan
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Jan, honey, thank you so much!!
![]() I am better today and realize that in doing what she did, she also made herself look like the fool in front of the group, so maybe that's the silver lining, huh?? ![]() In my shock, I didn't get to thank the awesome folks who came to my defense. There were several, and I am eternally grateful for them. ![]() ![]() ![]() Gosh, it's so funny. I can recall a time, not long ago at all, when I would have just balled up and sobbed. That's what lots of practice taking ***** from people does to ya. ![]() Thanks again for the pats on the back, everyone! I really needed 'em! Love y'all! LIZARD ![]() |
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Lizard,
I really admire you. My teacher yelled at me at class and embarrassed me so bad I took a break from school. Well, I also need to get ready to move but I could have put it off longer. I also am sorry you had to go through that but you handled it like a lady. And there's nothing wrong with crying when our feelings are hurt. Hugs to you. befuddled2 |
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