[Brokenfriend]

I got a message from my brother in law,and he,out of the blue want's $12,350. He never asked me to pay rent,and now suddenly he is. I don't have that much in the bank. Then he want's me to pay $650 a month. I get $608 from SSD,and $50 in food stamps. He thinks I'll get help from medicaid,in going below $2,000. I have a cat to feed. I need gas for the car. I need my dentist because of dental problems,stamps,medicine,and/or copays,property tax on my car,and my telephone/computer bill etc.,etc.,etc. Medicaid dosen't pay for these things,and I'm disabled,and can not work for more money.

I had a panic attack. I feel worse then ever. I've thought about suicide. I felt a burning around my head,and pressure on my heart. I screamed.

I called Emergency Services,and she said you will have your cat,and other things,and she said she will call my case worker.

Going through a bad night like this hurts me deeply. I don't know how many of these I can take. Why is my family doing this to me? Why did he shock me with a $12.350 bill? Why is he asking me for more then I have?

I feel so bad. BF

[Koala77]

Oh BF, I can only imagine what you're going through.

Please remember that suicide is not the answer!

Your BIL cannot get blood out of a stone. You don't have the money, and that's that! Please remember that even IF you had to declare bankruptcy, they still leave you enough money for you to survive on.

Your case worker will get back to just as soon as they can, and I just know that they will be able to help you see this from a different point of view.

Keep talking to us because even if we don't know the answers, we still want to be behind you, supporting you in your anguish.

[Brokenfriend]

I'm shocked. I hope that things will change. I'm hurting so much right now. I'm trying to get through the night. My mind is shipwrecked. My heart is in anguish. I thought that I might make it through this. Then they sent this to me when I was already hurting,and asking for prayer. BF

[waves]

This is so awful. I can understand your reaction.

But please, don't go anywhere. you know what i mean. you are a precious person. I don't know how, but I believe this will get worked out, and that you will be OK.

that was good that you had the presence of mind to call Emergency Services. That was a positive step you took, and it sounds like they will be able to help. I hope you hear from your case worker soon. Meanwhile keep this up... doing what you can to help yourself, reaching out.

i hope you do not mind me saying, i am angry with your brother right now. I cannot help feeling like this is an opportunistic act on his part (or your family's) because of your SSI approval. Of course i do not know and i am not proud of these feelings; i do not even know your family. But the coincidence really makes me wonder, and the wondering really stinks.

I do not know what will come of the whole rent/housing thing as far as the future. I think that your case worker will provide you with some alternatives though.

As for the past/lump sum, what occurs to me is that, if there was nothing in writing and you have been living on your brother's property, i do not see what legal recourse he has of asking for any "back-rent" at all. Of course i am not a lawyer but it seems highly improbable to me, to say the least. I also wonder if, given your disability you might have grounds to stay right where you are under the same rental conditions (i.e. zero) at this point.

there are many possibilities not all of them dire.

Indeed as Koala says you cannot be asked to give what you do not have.

Please keep us updated on how the situation and how you are faring.

I will keep you in my thoughts and in my heart.

((( hugs )))



~ waves ~

[waves]

Originally Posted by Brokenfriend

I'm trying to get through the night. My mind is shipwrecked. My heart is in anguish.

Honey i have something for you to listen to... i know it doesn't change things but this song was always soothing for me. i hope it is for you.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Hdx9JjzDfo

and i will pray for you if you do not think it is weird of me. because i think you know my beliefs are shaky but i do pray sometimes especially for others whose beliefs are less shaky. (if you prefer i just send you "positive thoughts" you can tell me, i will respect your wishes. )

now listen to the song...

more ((( hugs )))

~ waves ~

[Brokenfriend]

What you feel comfortable with. Thank's for caring. I'm going to listen to the song. BF

[waves]

just checking in to see if you had posted again / are ok... i think i just missed you because it looked like you were on but now you're gone.

i hope you are feeling somewhat better.

i have prayed for you and will continue to - i am ok with it. i asked for many interventions on your behalf but above all for you to be graced with feeling more peace in your heart, and to be granted the strength to face these challenges. you may think it odd but it came spontaneously: i prayed for your family as a whole as well, for healing for all of you... it seemed natural... perhaps because what is happening seems so unnatural in a family, and so sad.

i will also send you positive thoughts and energy through whatever "channels" i can throughout the day... i do believe in a connectedness.

i will be around another hourish and will be popping in again in case you want to talk. i am posting this so you know you are not alone. later i will be going out but by then ppl on your side of the pond will be waking up, so hopefully you will have more replies.

i hope you can manage to get to sleep at some point. that will help you.



~ waves ~ from across the ocean

[Brokenfriend]

It's 8 AM,and I haven't been able to sleep. I've had all of these thoughts going through my head,and I'm heavily burdened. BF

[Pamster]

So glad I found this thread now! Oh Broeknfriend, you need to get HUD housing assistance and get your OWN place, get AWAY from these disfunctional family members who think it's funny to put you THROUGH something like this. I definitely would NOT give them a dime, you have no lease, and if you've not been paying so called rent, then he has NO RIGHT to break your verbal agreement NOW out of the blue. It sounds to me like he's in debt and wants an easy out and thinks YOU should bear the burden of his bad money managment. I am with waves, I am angry with your BIL right now too.

My first thought is to seek a lawyer, but it would be better to get HUD involved and get on their waiting list for Section 8 housing they can pay a LOT of your rent, and from that with your ssi you might be able to swing a place of your own. I am so sorry you have such insensitive cold unfeeling people in your life like this, last I recall they were trying to sell your house right? If it's your house then there's NO reason for them to demand you pay 'rent' at all. Please don't give in to th ose bad feelings, your BIL should be ashamed of himself for daring to throw you into this tailspin, how CRUEL of him...

[barbo]

CALL LEGAL AID!! It's free.