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Originally Posted by moose53
Oh, I was married. He was a caretaker type of person. The relationship was that one of us always seemed to be 'down'. When one went 'down', the other could shift into caretaker mode.
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Dear Barb,
Part of our dynamics is that I calm him down when he is too "up/wired/hyper/mad" about something. That works if I am not "up" about the same thing.
I kind of bring him back down to normal mood. When I can't play that function for him, he is a bit lost.
Moodwise, I rely on him to be steady for my anxiety. Most of the time that works.
But I've been feeling crowded or something and I can't put my finger on it.
Regarding work stuff: I am learning slowly to farm out stuff and let people take more initiative and do more of my duties.
I like your example about the phone calls.
When I came home from work, I was happy to see that no one had called me. Imagine, people call me at home. What, am I stupid for giving out my number and telling people to call me?!
Mari