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10-23-2007, 01:03 AM
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Dear Barb, Part of our dynamics is that I calm him down when he is too "up/wired/hyper/mad" about something. That works if I am not "up" about the same thing. I kind of bring him back down to normal mood. When I can't play that function for him, he is a bit lost. Moodwise, I rely on him to be steady for my anxiety. Most of the time that works. But I've been feeling crowded or something and I can't put my finger on it. Regarding work stuff: I am learning slowly to farm out stuff and let people take more initiative and do more of my duties. I like your example about the phone calls. When I came home from work, I was happy to see that no one had called me. Imagine, people call me at home. What, am I stupid for giving out my number and telling people to call me?!  Mari |
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10-23-2007, 07:20 AM
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 -- "Can you show me how to do such-and-such".I wanted to show how them to lay on the floor and do their best imitation of a "pavement pancake"   Yeah, it's hard for women and for caretakers (which most woman are, I think). We tend to feel best when we're 'helping' so we want to 'help' all the time. It gets out of hand. People being helped get lazy. And we don't want to give up that 'feeling' that we get when we're helping. There *IS* a balance though. It takes a lot of work. Hugs. Enjoy your day off. Don't eat all the Halloween candy!!  Barb 
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10-23-2007, 11:42 PM
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Hello,
Thanks for the words of wisdom.  Today was great. I slept and watched TV. I never left the apt. A colleague has noticed my stress and emailed me tonight something sort of like this: "I know that you have a lot on your plate. What can I do to help"? I thanked hiim, told him that I was fine, and then gave him a short list of what he can do. HA! I'm learning.  Mari |
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10-24-2007, 11:24 AM
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Great for your colleague stepping up to the plate.
Fantastic that you allowed him some things to do for you and the department. I hope that you have an ok day with less stress. ((((HUGS))))) bizi
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