Checkin in. Just wanted to share that I've gone to 2 meetings so far and plan to go to more. I've found a good group

That is great news Gladys...are they alanon meetings? I have been in both AA and Alanon and both groups were wonderful!!
When I read that your youngest is in a big bed I giggled....just last week Saffire moved into her big girl bed!!!! It has been really good....she gets up earlier...makes for nap changes and I am really tired at night...but so is Saff!! I started going back to my AA meetings as did hubby...we take turns and that is great too...I missed everyone there and have been able to really put my issues out on the table!! Good to be here...I miss it here!!

Yep, I started Al-Anon. I'm finding it a good fit, thus far

How ironic about Safi and Brett both moving into the big kid beds the same weekend

I am so happy about your going to Alanon!! A friend of mine asked me to accompany her to one.....I did and it ended up that I kept going back for quite some time. I lived with a practicing alcoholic and his 4 kids with my 2 kids.....I was very very unhappy but I was used to being a doormat.....I ended up being able to make the decision to make me and my kids the most important things in the world....I knew in my heart he was using me as the do drop in and one day I had had enough and kicked him to the curb.....best thing I ever did for me and the kids....I was about a year sober and had a clear enough head that I knew that I did not want to be part of the relationship anymore....I was a babysitter for him...for the kids but more so him! I was soooo happy afterward that I ran to my room and bounced on my bed with the kids shouting and cheering!!! I found it really helped me to take control of myself...the focus was on ME for a change...not him. Mind you I kept going to AA....the focus there, for me, was what I had did to others and making it about them.... the combo gave me a life...thank God!!!

Still sober! Check check checkin in!!!! Hope everyone is doing OK!! Hugs to all

Hi Dorrie!!! Still here, still sober as a bright sunshiny morning and still loving the 'dry' life

I think getting sick is what enabled me to finally put the focus on ME Going to Al-anon helps reinforce that. I used to be reactive and bend over backwards to be everything to everyone and after having my third child and getting the dx of MS, and all that goes along with that...well....I realized I can't be 'that girl' anymore! It was time for me to take hold of the reigns and become the woman I am becoming I didn't even know/realize that I was a child of this illness until this past spring. What an enlightening awareness that has been for me. When I look at all the things that are/what an Adult Child are, I realize how much applies to me. And now I can focus on changing and becoming a better, stronger person.....one day at a time

I'm just checking in and saying hello! It's been a busy couple of weeks, and the next couple should be just as busy preparing for the holiday

Well Wishes to Everyone!

Hi Gladys....your post made me really smile..I am so happy for you!!!



I really like this!! I love the butterfly in the center of it all as well!!

Hi everyone....I was reflecting just now. I remember one christmas...my last christmas drinking. My kids were at my Mom and Dads place...I was not welcome there I let on like I did not care! I was cooking a turkey for me and my kids....I remember feeling very sorry for myself when my new boyfriend arrived with a friend of his to meet me for the first time. I had bleach on my hair...in my pjs...drunker than drunk. I was cooking my turkey....did not clean it out....cooked the bag in....did not dress or baste it...made nothing else with it and even though the kids said later that they did not mind eating it...I tossed the whole bird..upset that it looked ridiculous....blamed the world...drank some more...ruined it for everyone...etc This will be my 9th sober christmas!! I can cook a turkey worthy of eating now. I am welcome at my parents home..I do not pick Christmas day to dye my hair now...no longer have that boyfriend ( he liked to drink!) and it is now very important for me to be sure that everyone has a wonderful christmas...it matters now!!! Thank God for my sobriety !!!!
PS...Sorry for rambling..just a remember when...I need them sometimes!!!

This was 'that' Christmas/Holiday season of realizing why it is that I used to like to drown those stressful feelings! Tough, but well worth it!

Hey Gang!! Hope the Holidays were good to all!
How did everyone do? I know that sometimes it can be tough at holiday time. I did fine but I have been so sick for the last month..been home alot...at least I can come here and not give all of you my germs!!!!!!!