Thank you Donna,

Yes, I can not wait to talk to Bobby and have things all better now. I sent Bobby a nasty letter when I was all messed up and now I'm sorry that I did. He should not get the letter until tomorrow.

barbara

barb

Then call Bobby and let him know that you were all messed up. Not thinking
straight thats what not feeling good, being cooped up does you know.

And you wrote a letter, with lots of things you don't mean in it. You hope when he gets it he will either tear it up. Or if he has to read it realize you
are sorry now.

That is what I would do is just own up to it before he gets it.

Not that I have always done that.

donna

Thank you Donna. I called Bobby back a 2nd time but could not get him yet. I left word that I had sent him a letter while I was all messed up and was sorry for it.

barbara

Dear Barbara,

I'm glad you left a message about the letter. I hope things work out ok with Bobby.

~ waves ~

Thank you.

I called Bobby this morning and told him I was messed up when I wrote the letter and to just throw it away. I told Bobby I was sorry I was mean to him Tuesday by phone. He said he didn't think I was mean to him.

I am beginning to see one of my problems I have in my relationship with Bobby. I am carrying over how my ex husband reacted to me when I was myself and not what my ex wanted me to be. My ex would get mad at me for everything so I've been trained to think that any man I care a lot for will do the same. I could not even be myself without my ex yelling and screaming if I didn't act totally the way he expected me to. Bobby is not like that and always says that he didn't think I was mean or anything when I apologize to Bobby.

barbara

Dear Barbara,

Now you can stop apologizing and just be yourself.
You don't have to worry about his reactions.

You are working with a whole new set of rules -- maybe it is freeing. Probably it sure feels like a different world now.

I'm glad that Bobby sounds like a gentle person.

M.

Thank you Mari.

I believe that Bobby ended up reading the nasty letter I sent to him anyway by a few of the things he said tonight. He's wasn't mean to me though. He sounded disappointed that I had gone to the local bar yesterday. One of the things I said in the letter I sent to him was that I was going out to meet some male friends cause he has female freinds in Hanks the restuarant. I told Bobby that I know just about everyone that goes into the bar and that they're just regulars to me like in Hanks. Before me mentioning me going into the bar I told him how a girlfriend called me up and asked me to meet them out to eat. He said what's wrong with Hanks? I told him I was not going into Hanks anymore or maybe after some time has passed I would. I didn't tell him how his close freind the 90 year old lady has been treating me. I may have to discuss it with him to a degree one day though. Before we hung up I told him, "luv ya, bye."

barbara

One of the ladies that goes into Hanks and who is very, very, close to the 90 year old lady I think told her Jehovah Witness friend my business. The 2 Jehovah Witnesses came by to see me and one of them asked me if it was true I was asked to stay out of Hanks. The only way she could have known that is if the woman in Hanks told her. Then the guy Jehovah Witness read a scripture out of the Bible about sins of the flesh and fonification. It just seem too coincidential he would do that unless they people in Hanks said something. As you all know who have followed me and Bobby we have not slept together. I am hurt and shocked.

Barb

I'm sorry your having such a hard time.

Its so bad that people do that. Jehovah's witness just honestly don't know
how to mind their own business.

Donna

Just take their booklets and say you'll read them later.. you don't have to discus anything with them..
say you have something in the oven or someone on the phone....
or in the middle of a project and can't chat now.

say thank you have a nice day goodbye.
and close the door.

every so often they show up at our door too.