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01-19-2007, 08:03 PM
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Thanks for all your replies.
It is true, now I see it, whatever they think, they can think, it works, thanks wittesea!! And I don't work, so I do have the time. Mari-you raise a good point, my relationship is being re-done, its getting a makeover, re-establishment of roles, because I am no longer just drunk all the time. So this really does have some ties to past co-dependant behavior on my part and his. He did not see I had a problem with drinking, he thought it was just the bipolar. Now I am making him aware of it, it "seems" controlling to some, I just want him to see this is what I am going through, this is where I have been, this is where I go every day and how hard it is to never taste beer or get high again. The control thing does have to do with AA, surrender, but I am sorry on some health issues I CANNOT, just let go let god. I hate to utter that but I have to...I am trying to put it in terms of not being controlling, but I am learning to assert myself and SET BOUNDARIES to protect myself, not control a situation but boundaries is my new word. Thanks, oh yeah, I don't have kids, he is the kid. And I am OVER that, thanks to this board, tons of therapy, and finally ACCEPTANCE. Last edited by nuttybuddy; 01-19-2007 at 08:08 PM. |
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01-19-2007, 10:58 PM
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Keep doing what you are doing. You seem to be on a good path for yourself. I think you are right about the med issues requiring us to be alert. Also to be firm in our dealings with people for example..........protect ourselves. All of that is good I believe. Mari |
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01-19-2007, 11:16 PM
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[quote=nuttybuddy;61200]I am learning to assert myself and SET BOUNDARIES to protect myself, not control a situation but boundaries is my new word.
quote] This is very true! setting up what is acceptable behavior from someone and then not rewarding bad behavior....I choose to ignore bad behavior as a self protective measure. It is like being able to choose your friends.... there is also the word "limits" limits and boundaries are both great words! (((HUGS))) bizi 
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01-20-2007, 04:39 AM
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Nuttybuddy, I am glad to see you content with things now. There were a lot of interesting points brought up. I know I'll benefit from this thread also. Thank you all.
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