Me too, i have been wondering.

Hi,
The HR meeting did not happen. First a bit of scheduling mess by HR. Next, I was supposed to reschedule but did not check my phone messages until over a week later.
'My work buddy told me to reschedule because he says I need to respond to the letters of reprimand, bad evaluations, and such in the file from the immediate boss. Work is so depressing. I avoid dealing with it as best I can except when I have to help work buddy deal with administration.
After he took on my role when I quit some duties, he has consulted me by phone or email daily -- sometimes several times a day. I explain things to him. He calms me down.

M.

Dear Mari

what i am hearing/imagining of your rapport with the work buddy that took over your roles

[yes, i should be sleeping. no i am not however. i re-woke up. ]


... is a sort of symbiosis. he has the responsibility. you have understanding of the processes that you are happy to share with him, so he can go deal with that stuff, while you don't.

but he also sounds pretty savvy. or maybe just common sense. anyway i agree with his "assessment" that you need to reschedule. Reprimands and bad evals must definitely be responded to, no matter how ludicrous they might have been. what was ludicrous must be made evident to the boss above the writer-upper and documented. if the reprimand is even in part genuine - but what you did is justfied, then the justification must be clarified and documented. finally if there is anything left against you, get clear what the steps and time frames are for you to fix it.

it will just be one meeting. howver uncomfortabole, it will not last that long. couple hours at most, but probably no thta long.

then this will be behind you but many things will be put to bed asleep. and anything lying awake will not be left to wander aimlessly.

it will stop haunting you like a ghost in chains in the attic of your mind.

so, try to get the rescheduling done at least, this next week.

~ waves ~e

feel the fear and do it anyway....
(((((HUGS))))
bizi

Mari

Action is needed.

Donna

I agree that you have to reschedule...
or you may miss a great opportunity to set some things straight.

I think it's ridiculous that your big boss would submit you all to vote on keeping/dumping your immediate boss... especially since they decided they had to keep him. I hope those votes were anonymous, so there will be no retribution.

Maybe keep a log of interactions with and mistakes by i.boss to submit to HR in the future....

I hope you get somewhere with this, Mari

So sorry to hear of such drama at your place of employment. I can relate. Be careful not to hold your anxiety in as it may cause some illness. I'd advise you to follow through with rescheduling that appointment with HR. This sounds like a toxic workplace and it needs to be rectified.

Dear Mari

it is hard to pick up the ball when other people (who are wearing satin gloves instead of mitts, keep conveniently dropping it.... and looking away as it slowly sort of rolls into your court due to circumstance like, the floor is slanted.

in the end i think you are the one who will need to get that ball rolling again. everyone else seems to have olympic-standard ostrich-coping skills.

but from years of posting, it has seemed to me your office situation has hurt you, big time, but not just you, also others, individually and as teams. so it's big. i hope you can find the wherewithall to move forward this time too.

finally just want to say, you have done great all this time, taking care of your people. kudos for that. i know they all appreciate you.

~ waves ~ sending good vibes, positive thoughts and a sense of self-assurance.

beautiful post waves.
((((HUGS to mari and you both))))
bizi