(((((((((((((( Mari )))))))))))))))
it all sounds positively exhausting.
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I'm so fragile. I need lots of time alone to recover to get back outside to work. The weekend was about them and hubby and I barely slept. I did not do anything for myself. There was no downtime except the four hours or so I slept at night.
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yuck. i hear you about down time and alone time.
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And three nights in a row of restaurant food was horrible -- salty, more quantity than I would have had at home even though I ordered carefully and took home some one night for the fridge. My dad likes restaurants as entertainment-- plan the place, have many discussions about how to get there, deal with the wait staff, drink wine that we don't keep in our place, discuss the food, . . . .
And i tremendously find restaurants themselves stressful
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ok, consider this: i
like restaurants generally (depends on place), but i HATE excessive prep-work to get there. that half ruins it. talking about the food to the extent of verifying if everyone is happy with what they got is as far as i like to discuss the food. analysis of it i dislike - it should be part of a pleasant scenery to be shared while the focus can be on the company. but for someone
who doesn't even like restaurants... this sounds like a nightmare.
let me open a parenthesis. (you know i have that parenthetical speech tendency... so here goes...)
a "good" restaurant experience should be like going into one of those "relax" rooms in a gym, except you get to bring friends and socialize if you want.
i recall a beautiful (i mean REALLY beautiful), quiet, chinese restaurant i used to frequent. it featured a large S-shaped coy pool and lots of plants, plant-dividers, tall plants, etc. the menu was illustrated as well as written out with descriptions. the lighting was warm from those fabric-globe lights. there ample space between tables - feeling of privacy and the servers did not have to ex-squeeze their way about. soft music. great ambience. the food was an integral part of all that. the waiting staff waited on you, not the reverse. (waiting staff, when they do their job well, are almost transparent.)
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Next time, I'll let hubby cook for them and I'll eat by myself in another room.
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this sounds sooooo sad!!! but you know, if it works for you... it could be a way of getting your alone time. and you could eat food that you like and nurture yourself that way.
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Each day I had to keep up with hubby and Mom. THey were off doing their own thing playing tennis and visiting parks, but I sort of had to keep up with them via computer prints outs for directions
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oh boy. techno stuff and organizational crud.... ack!
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THen there was the talking. I made Dad talk more about medical to me than he has ever spoken to anyone else but mom. I told him that they are a part of a family and they have to share what the heck is going on. He said Mom will never tell us kids anything but we can ask him about her. He and I also had to update each other on what is going on with my brothers. . . . . . so depressing. I'd rather avoid what is avoidable.
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i understand about it being depressing. but i am wondering if this could be a breakthrough in terms of getting him to share more, more often. bunches of updates at onces is hard. but keeping in touch over the phone might be better. perhaps this is one positive thing that could emerge from this visit.
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Did I say I did not sleep??
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we gathered....
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Maybe I'll take a break. This is so much whining in a post.
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so start another post and "whine" some more - as much as you want. we're here to hear.
(((( hugggggs )))) and soothing vibes
oh i just saw your title... glad that the tea helped
~ waves ~
09-07-2011, 04:39 AM
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