I think you made the right decision even though it cost you. his tension must be so unpleasant and peace should be treasured. I can't believe you even sewed for him. that was going the extra mile. you have such a good heart.
bobby who also thinks twenty five years is a very long long time

Today is your dinner. I hope that you find some comfort there...thinking of you today.
(((((HUGS))))
bizi

It started again today. He wants me to agree with him that the insurance company is crooked, that the representative was a liar, . . . .that something is going to cost him money.
He attacks me for not being involved enough in his neuroses.

I told him I need to stay calm for dinner tonight with colleague's wife and son and for preparing for work tomorrow with my students . I ask him to stop pushing. He wants to keep asking the same question a different way. I tell him to go to the insurance office on Monday and ask them questions and leave me alone.
It keeps going until I am crying and upset and then he says I have a problem.

I am so messed up right now.


M

Hi Mari
 

Sorry he is giving you such a hard time. I hate to hear that happens to a person as nice as you are. This insurance issues has gotten under his skin. I wish I knew something to say to help. It is hard handling ones own problems, without having to deal full force with someone elses problem. I think I would hide or perhaps leave a day or two until he could gain some control. ginnie

I am sorry mari,
Your husband has mental health issues it sounds like. This sounds difficult to handle. It makes everyday struggles even harder.YOu are right on the money. HE needs to deal with the insurance agency on monday and leave you out of it.
bizi

Thank you.
 

Hi,

I took 0.5 mgs Klonopin, went for a short walk, and put my headphones on. In the car on the way to meet them I listened to a relaxation track.

On the way home I did the same: listened to relaxation with headphones and completely ignored him.

M

oh man!
 

Dear Mari

i am sorry about your day. :( it really sounded like the Saturday you invested in getting hubby calm was worth the pay off in tranquility... and then it didn't happen. :(

it makes me mad that he doesn't seem to appreciate how difficult a time this is for you. :mad: i realize his problems don't make him feel good but... sigh.

i am sorry he drove you to tears with his obsessions about the insurance stuff. and to boot called it your problem. yeah... you do have a problem of sorts: his inability to control himself.

i hope between the Klonopin and the relaxation tape that your dinner went well. I hope you are able to stay put together for class tomorrow. i have class tomorrow too... but only one, and with only student. ;) but i still know what you mean, one needs to be in good shape... calm, receptive, etc.

i hope you can rest tonight. ((((((:heartthrob: hugs :heartthrob:))))))

~ waves ~

the visit went well
 

Hi,
The meet up for dinner went well.

We usually meet them in their driveway so that we do not have to go in their house. Then hubby drives to a restaurant that they pick out (the kid is a very fussy eater). This time we had Italian.

The wife did not know until I pointed it out that her son saw numbers and letters in colors.

The kid hates to buy new shoes and does not cooperate with his mother about his shoes . . . .so we went shoe shopping (he grew a size and a half since the first time we shopped for shoes). Hubby is good with him. The kid loved the shoes hubby picked out for him.

The wife mentioned somethings here and there about my colleague a few times that I might not have known: He was very close to his mother, he was a good cook . . able to make a nice dinner out of a very few ingredients in the fridge, he left his paperwork very organized . . . she was able to send in the taxes this year to the IRS easily because she could follow what he did last year, . . .


M

I am so glad that the visit went well for you. and that you share some good quality time together. and that hubby helped with the shoe shopping! bonus!
bizi

Glad everything went well. It sounds like if you didn't have to tell
him to much ahead of time. This was going to happen this would
be better.

I think even planning to shoe shop for the kid might work better.
Sounds like your Hubby might even enjoy that to a degree.

Donna:grouphug::hug: