Well Mike, and I are over. Not that he even had the guts to say so.

At the huge party last Sat. night, we got separated there were so many people it was held outside, and he got mad and yelled at me. I don't need that crap. He was kind of drunk too, which I really don't like when he has to drink so much.

The next day he didn't want to go to my pool as planned, so he stayed home which I really doubt because he has mentioned going to some club to see a band after a biker run. I told him I don't like being yelled at especially for something as stupid as it was. He thinks I walked away from him on purpose, jerk......His friends couldn't even find him. My cell kept ringing but we couldn't hear each other because of the band, finally I met back up with him.

Haven't heard from him since, and I am NOT calling him. His son is in town for 2 days today and tomorrow, so I know I won't hear from him.

So, that is that. What can I say. I think I am better off.

It seemed to be his way or the highway, well I took the highway, LOL

I feel a bit down. But I was sick of the "I love you" "I am in love with you" "I want to make love to you" My God we had only been seeing each other a month and a half or so.

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

Hugs, Nikko

i have to agree with you nikko...you are better off. reading your posts about his drinking...well..sent up red flags for me.

you are a wonderful person. don't settle.

I agree, too! From what you had written at various times, I was afraid that he wasn't right for you, but I also knew that you would find your way and figure it out for yourself sooner or later....looks like sooner .

At least you have friends that you can go out with without having to hassle with his idiosyncri...well, you know what I mean .

Take care,, keep getting out there and enjoying yourself!

Hugs, Jacquie

((((((Nikko)))))),



I'm glad you took the highway, sugar. Or, showed him the highway. Whichever.

You don't need a drinker. And you certainly don't need a yeller (hmmm!! interesting word ... yellow ... yeller ... hmmm!!).

Nikko, you probably don't see it -- 'cause you're inside yourself But, *WE* see how much you've grown and changed. You **DESERVE** better -- much better.

I know all of us women want someone to love us and to take care of us -- even when we're "strong". But, what we really want is someone who will treat us as an *EQUAL*. Equal doesn't mean you can tell me what to do and yell at me. Equal means if we have a problem we discuss it.

You've got TONS of support here and elsewhere. People who believe in you. And believe that you'll find more and better. There's no deadline. No time clock. It'll happen when you're ready. And, I know you're ready

BIG HUGS (and love). Stay strong. And don't take no crap.

Barb

Good for you! That took a ton of willpower and inner strength.
Way to go! WOOHOO!

Nikko,

Here's a hug for you.

befuddled2

Thank you all, I really needed to feel the support and believe that I was not wrong in this.

Well onward!!! Just made a huge pot of my own sauce with Italian sausage and meatballs, it will have to simmer all day. My mom will watch it.

My friend called and we are meeting at the pool this afternoon. It's in the high 90's no humidity though, 100 this weekend. WOW time to float!!!

Life goes on and I will be fine. Tomorrow I have my DV counsler appt., and next week my p-doc.

The only thing is, I know I will run into Mike at some point, because of the places we go to. I guess I will cross that bridge when I come to it.
Right?

Love you all, and thanks soooooooooooooooo much for your support.

Nikko

I'm sorry it's come to that Nikko, but you really have to look out for yourself and I am so glad you did. It's not right for Mike to yell at you for anything so stupid. It's going to be better for you to not have that influencing your life any longer. I hope you feel better soon, it's hard to break up with someone, but it would have been harder had you continued the relationship much longer.

You deserve to have a good man, hopefully the right one will walk into your life and be all that Mike could not. His drinking was only one aspect of his influence on your life, now you've reclaimed your freedom, congratulations!

Okay you all are invited over for my own sauce, meatballs and Italian sausage, pasta and garlic bread or texas toast.......oh and a salad.....

Sound good........come on over.....hey that's a song by Shawnia Twain..LOL

Thanks, Nope I don't need anyone to treat me badly or even yell at me, after what I went through with my ex-husband, I see too many red flags with Mike.

I am glad I have my DV appt counseler tomorrow, in fact we are supposed to talk about RED FLAGS.....

Love you all.....see you at supper.....bring your swim suits, it's hot and we can hit the pool too.

Hugs, NIkko

oh that sounds delicious!
thanks for the invitation.
I agree with you on this one.
Mike has all kinds of red flags....
So glad that you will be seeing your counselor tomorrow.
((((HUGS)))
bizi