so sorry you have to go through this. your husband sounds so very difficult.
i wish there were happy pills you could get into him.
good about the minimum. it sounded as if a disaster was avoided.
good thoughts
bobby

I used to talk to my brother about what went on, but he got tired of hearing it- he hates my husband. I had been confiding in my aunt about what was going on for years (my uncle was an emotionally abusive alcoholic, too), and had told my sister why I was not pushing to reconcile with my husband after he kicked me out because she kept telling me to go home.
When I attempted s/s my husband and I were still separated. While I was in the hospital, my aunt got into more detail with my sister about the goings on and for some reason, my sister decided it was a good idea to tell my husband everything I had said about him.
Over a year later, he still flips out every now and then and tells me to call all my whole family to tell them I'm a liar.
So, I don't confide in my family anymore. In fact, now my sister thinks I'm a liar and he's a ****ing saint. Since my second hospitalization, she has grown distant anyway. And I have little to do with my brother or that aunt anymore.

I had a very close friend that I confided everything in, but I ended up sending a break up letter to her a couple of years ago during a period of paranoia (long story). I scared my few "good" close friends away between my mania and s/s attempt. The few friends I have left aren't close, aside from one I correspond with, but she gets distracted a lot.

I love my husband very much, but there are obvious issues in our marriage. I usually don't even end up bringing them up in therapy unless there's a fresh wound. I just try to move on when I can. He can be scary when he loses his temper (a fairly regular occurrence). I usually just do what I can to try to avoid having it directed at me (fairly irregular).

Kay

I'm so glad you were given the minimum. Hoping things straigthen out
some as time goes. And you get your license back.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Thank you for sharing...
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

I was able to view my labs online today. My eosinophils and some electrolytes were a little elevated, but I had been sweating out a fever the morning before my appointment so I'm not surprised. Thyroid levels were off again (but he raised my synthroid already). Otherwise everything was normal. My vitamin D level was in the mid 60s which is okay, but having MS I should be shooting for the 80s so I'll increase my dose.

I got no apology from my husband. He let Wednesday's events go, but was throwing temper tantrums, but nothing major.
I think part of the reason he's been so bad is that he hasn't been drinking because he's been taking cold medicine at night. His cold has been clearing up though.

We need to have a talk about his temper. I've done this in the past and he's worked on it with (temporary) good results. Although I don't expect to be very successful this time because I think he'll have a laundry list of excuses including his cold. But colds and the flu are wide spread right now, everyone goes through tough times, and God knows I'm going through my own issues, but that doesn't give him the right to behave like this.

If the conversation goes badly and/or he can't control his temper I think I'll stay at a hotel for a night to get away from him. Frankly I need a break from this, and maybe he'll realize how intolerable his behavior has been and make an attempt to correct it. On the other hand, I can see him going ape **** if I even suggest that I'm going to stay at a hotel.

Whatever, I'll try.

Dear Kay,

The labs look pretty good.

I hope that talking to him works.

M

Kay

Good luck. Personally I agree with the night away if he is mad or angry.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

good idea kay.
you don't deserve to be treated that way.
((((HUGS)))))
bizi

I didn't get into a deep conversation with him about his temper because he came home in a good mood, but he remarked he hadn't been drinking because he was taking the cold medicine and I told him I'd noticed- his temper had been ****ing horrible. Aside from the day he took me to the appointment, he hadn't noticed :confused: Anyway, his cold has cleared up and he bought beer.

I've been having mild cold symptoms for a while, but the cold really kicked in yesterday and my cough is just terrible now. My husband was actually making fun of me… this is a man who would actually growl every time he'd cough or sneeze. He said he was just teasing me, but I asked him what he'd do if I'd dared to make fun of him when he was sick, and he said he'd ****ing flip out. So, he got the picture and stopped.

Sometimes he's a pain in the *** when he's in a good mood.

The cold is no fun, but I've had worse. I'm up early again (5:30am) and couldn't fall back asleep because my mouth got too dry from breathing out of my mouth…
It reminded me that I have sleep apnea. I was diagnosed 15 years ago and I really don't think about it, but I know I was under 140lbs then and I'm 160 now. Maybe it's worse because of the rapid weight gain and that's contributing to the fatigue? I gained 45lbs in a little over a year, 15lbs of that being much more recent. I'll bring it up at my neuro appointment tomorrow.

My husband stayed in a good mood yesterday with no teasing. I was grouchy though lol. I had to go to the pharmacy and wanted to get the food shopping over with. It was packed, and for some reason everyone was treating the grocery store like a meeting hall and they were blocking all the aisles having conversations. You run into that from time to time, but it was rampant, so it was bizarre, and very frustrating. A very good day for people watching though :)