she sounds really nice and receptive and not rigid. is that right?
too bad about the chicken. exciting about the candles. i love sandlewood.
i was surprised that she wasn't wary of your husband being an alcoholic.
bobby

She is very nice, and easy to talk to. I'm glad she got a kick out of me. It's good that she's not rigid, because I'm willing to be rigid as well, and I don't think that would work out well.

She was not happy to hear that my husband is an alcoholic, but I told her about his concerns for my safety because of drinking and driving. I was really surprised that she didn't make a big deal out of it. She didn't even ask me too many questions. Maybe she will next time.

Kay

I think its more she knows you live with it. And while on the right meds
it isn't effecting you. She believes as many of us here do, if your meds
are off you will take care of it.

I think this talking to her is turning out to be a good thing.

Donna

What a great report from you (minus the chicken)
happy that things are working out. What does hubby think?
bizi

Kay,

What a relief!


This session went well it seems. She was paying attention and seeing you
as an individual.
And the one year seemed significant to her.


I understand about the chicken. I used to have tons of thermeters: oven,
cookimg, freezer, fridge -- but hubby does not get the point of why they
exist and they have been disappearing over the years.

M

Bizi, I just told my husband that the session went a lot better. I didn't get into any detail with him. He'd be upset if I was upset, but he's not really interested in the particulars. I would never tell him any of her input about his drinking or our relationship- he wouldn't like the idea that I was talking about him at all.

I bought a new meat thermometer for about $13 and the average rating is 5/5 stars on Amazon (by 171 people).

While I was there, I decided to download my tax software. I read the full description, and based on that, bought what I thought was the right product. Long story short: I had major problems with it, and it turned out to be an out-of-date version for 2015 that couldn't be updated?! No refund from Amazon. Bastards.

I ended up downloading the right product from H&R Block's site. I was able to import last year's return, and our taxes are simple, so I had very little to do in the way to inputting information. Our taxes are done, but because of my cognitive problems, I need to go back and check them three times, on three separate days, to check for errors before I e-file them. This is going to be the first time in years we'll be getting a federal refund. Yay!

I got all my candle stuff yesterday (with the exception of the hot glue gun). I'm extremely pleased with the quality of the jars. I didn't expect them to be that nice. But I'm disappointed because my husband's so obsessed with the idea of sandalwood candles and when I had him smell the fragrance he said it smelled like shampoo. It smelled like sandalwood to me, but I'm concerned because the scent is pretty faint. I hope it smells better to him, and stronger to me, when we burn the candles.

yea on the taxes getting done sorry about your experience with the other tax service...sigh
Maybe the hot glue gun will come in today? or early nest week. I love pretty bottles, I have some blue glass ones that are resting on the window ledge...the cats knock them down occasionally when a stray cat comes on the outside and threatens them. sigh
bizi

I forgot to mention that as of yesterday I'm 7 months sober

I have an appointment with pdoc on Monday… $30 copay and $18 in cab fare each way. Ouch.
Then I have an appointment with my substance abuse counselor on Thursday… $95 and $14 cab fare each way. Ouch.
1 week=$189. Very painful.

The following week I have an appointment scheduled with my therapist, and another one with my substance abuse counselor. I could omit one or both to save myself some dough. Otherwise, it would be another $189 week.

I don't see any harm in skipping a week of counseling, aside from the fact that I want to get the sessions over with as soon as possible so I'll be eligible to get my license back faster. I'm sure my counselor will understand that I need to skip a week because of financial reasons.

I'd love to cancel the appointment with my therapist too. It would be nice to save myself the money and give myself a whole week off, but I haven't seen her in a long time and I really should go. If I just keep the appointment with her it would be a $66 week.

Next month, I also have to send drunk.org a $60 fee for "monitoring" me (via phone). I shouldn't have to send another one because I expect to finish my counseling next month, as long as everything goes as planned.

I just started thinking about how costly car insurance will be when I do get my license back. I honestly have no idea, but I'm sure the payments will be ridiculous and will rival what I'm paying now between counseling sessions and cab fare. There's also the BIG 20% down to consider. I'm not freaking out about it yet because it's still a long way off, but I guess it's a sign that I'm starting to see some light at the end of the tunnel again.

I have heard that a DUI here costs about $8K. Perhaps this is the cost when you add up all of the expenses etc???
It is very expensive.
We can't afford a dui.
some one got arrested last week, I read it in the paper with an alcohol level of .06...I thought the level had to be .08 or greater. Apparently not!
(((((HUGS))))
bizi

I thought the law was .08 in every state, but anyone under the age of 21 can be arrested for DUI if they have any alcohol in their system.

I think when people refer to the "cost of a DUI" they probably mean the total cost: fine, court fees, cost of court-ordered programs, maybe a lawyer, and the increase in insurance. Putting a number to it usually helps make it more of a deterrent.

We can't afford it either. You're expected to pay your fine at the time of your plea/conviction. I didn't know what my fine would be, but I knew the range, and knew we didn't have the money. My father wired me the amount of the highest fine possible the night before my court appearance.

Taking cabs and paying for copays to see my pdoc and other MDs so often got very costly and I later hit the Medicare donut hole and had to pay for scripts out-of-pocket using coupons. Thankfully, the appointments have slowed down and my insurance is covering my prescriptions again.

I payed $200 for the initial visit to drunk.org back in March, $450 for the weekend driving class, and more recently paid another $260 for the substance abuse evaluation appointments.

The counseling is just for 6-weeks, but adding an extra $100+ really hurts and I really can't get away with delaying any of the other appointments.

I guess that federal tax refund check will come in handy.