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Old 10-14-2015, 10:47 AM #221
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I am sorry that happened to you. anyways she couldn't know what caused it and it is over with. Is she important in your life? I guess the answer is no so I would try to forget it.
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Screw her.....
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I will not give up in this weight loss journey, nor this need to be AF. 3-19-13=156, 6-7-13=139, 8-19-13=149, 11-12-13=140, 6-28-14=157, 7-24-14=149, 9-24-14=144, 1-12-15=164, 2-28-15=149, 4-21-15=143, 6-26-15=138.5, 7-22-15=146, 8-24-15=151, 9-15-15=145, 11-1-15=137, 11-29-15=143, 1-4-16=152, 1-26-16=144, 2-24-16=150, 8-15-16=163, 1-4-17=169, 9-20-17=174, 11-17-17=185.6, 3-22-18=167.9, 8-31-18= 176.3, 3-6-19=190.8 5-30-20=176, 1-4-21=202, 10-4-21= 200.8,12-10-21=186, 3-26-22=180.3, 7-30-22=188, 10-15-22=180.9,
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I went to the store Monday and the lady checking me out kept staring at the scar on my neck in between scanning items (I had 4-5 things). She was making a strange face, I can't describe it. She saw me catch her a few times and she averted her eyes. She wouldn't look at my face.

It really bothered me. I can't stop thinking about it. Usually people aren't that blatant. I mentioned it to my husband. He said, "Who cares?" Obviously I do.
Yeah, that grocery store would be a disturbing moment.
Actually, it was probably more about something in her own life.

When that happens go somewhere in your mind to a Thích Nhất Hạnh moment.

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I've been going to the same pharmacy for 10yrs. I went there to fill a script the 1st time I went out after my s/s attempt. The pharmacist took me aside and said, "Kathryn, are you okay? Are you getting all the help you need?" She knew exactly what the scar was from (it looks nothing like a surgical incision). She came from a good place, but I realized then I wasn't going to get away with anything.

I've run into a couple of people I know who hadn't heard what happened. I've heard, "What did you do to yourself?" a few times, and one person thought someone stabbed me in the neck.

I worried about going food shopping for a long time, but my neighborhood is "interesting." And my local supermarket is like a freak show. I'm probably one of the less interesting people there. It's also always extremely busy. So, people seldom notice until the checkout. No one's really rude when they stare and strangers never ask about it though, so I do alright now as long as I take Xanax/Klonopin.

The incident on Monday happened at a convenience store. I usually stay in the car, but I went in because my husband was buying my O'Doul's in addition to his beer. There was no one else in the store but that (expletive).

I'd say I can forget about it about 50% of the time when I go to familiar places now, but I'm 100% aware when I go off the beaten track.

I've always had a hearty (expletive) you attitude towards people like this before. Sometimes I do, just not in this department. I think all of this has to do more with my opinion of myself than anyone else's. I still have a lot of work to do in that department.
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Good luck in your journey Kay.
I am glad that you are here.
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I will not give up in this weight loss journey, nor this need to be AF. 3-19-13=156, 6-7-13=139, 8-19-13=149, 11-12-13=140, 6-28-14=157, 7-24-14=149, 9-24-14=144, 1-12-15=164, 2-28-15=149, 4-21-15=143, 6-26-15=138.5, 7-22-15=146, 8-24-15=151, 9-15-15=145, 11-1-15=137, 11-29-15=143, 1-4-16=152, 1-26-16=144, 2-24-16=150, 8-15-16=163, 1-4-17=169, 9-20-17=174, 11-17-17=185.6, 3-22-18=167.9, 8-31-18= 176.3, 3-6-19=190.8 5-30-20=176, 1-4-21=202, 10-4-21= 200.8,12-10-21=186, 3-26-22=180.3, 7-30-22=188, 10-15-22=180.9,
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Kay

I believe you are giving a very good learning experience just from what
the pharmacist said to you. Remember, there are many things that
cause different reactions.

I know when I was off my foot because of complex partial I always
got weird looks.

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i have a gait disorder d/t the MS and walk with a cane. Reactions to that usually don't bother me anymore.
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Hey Kay. I worked in a Supermarket for around 14 years. I had friends, but there where trouble makers, and people who would disrupt the whole front end of the Supermarket when they were checking out. I would be aware of them. I'm glade that I had some friends. Those three groups were the people who I would remember.

The fellow workers were a problem before,or after they got fussed at. They were back stabbing and gossiping about each other most of the time. The owner would come out and give her employees a hard time very often. I kept on the move, and did everything that I knew how to do.

All of that got on my nerves big time after 14 years of rushing around the store in fear of getting scolded for pacing my work over time. They wanted more from me.

It was a privately owned store, so there wasn't a national chain of command . At one time they owned around 5,or 6 stores. There were always someone causing trouble.

I don't think that they concentrate on you for any period of time, because all of these other things that are going on in the background in the internal affairs of the Supermarket.

Sometimes certain customers would take a particular interest in some of us working there.

The boss seemed very friendly to the customers. Yo'all come back now ya hear!!! (((But))) it was in the back rooms.

I worked at another place that had trouble in the back rooms with bosses fussing,and angry co workers.

Anyway...I don't think that they are concentrating on you. Maybe for a few seconds. BF
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The supermarket we go to is a chain, but it is run like a family business. Most of the checkers are teenagers, and they're slow.

One of the girls (she must be about 17) has the biggest crush on my husband lol. She blushes and gets a little giddy every time we go through her line, and she sizes me up but she doesn't act like she's noticed the scar... she's probably too focused on my handsome husband lol.

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On another note, I'm doing much better medicating my anxiety...

I'm doing okay with 1.5mg of Klonopin in the morning most days. I've been having more days when I need 1mg rather than a half in the afternoon. Part of that is I'm trying to medicate OCD. I still don't take anything in the evening/at night because of that high dose of seroquel. I'm still staying under my 3mg limit.

Years ago, before the BP dx, I was prescribed Adderral, Ritalin, and then Provigil to fight the MS fatigue and stay alert, but they all induced what I now know is hypomania so I switched over to coffee...
I'm drinking a lot of it. Pdoc knows it. I have at least 3 in the morning and reserve another for around 4 o'clock when my energy really starts to take a dive. I know it's not the best thing for anxiety, but it's a coping mechanism and it's helping a lot. When I went to the MD to have him check out my bum, my bp was around 110/60 after 3 cups so I'm safe there.

BTW Bizi, I was shocked that they sell Duoderms OTC now... When I was still working (8yrs ago) they were new and we had to be careful how we cut because they were SO expensive. I wish I new that, I could have taken care of that sore before it got to the point where I needed to go to the MD.
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I know kay! they even make bandaides with duo derm or tegaderm which is a clear film.
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