No, my father is not helpful. You have no idea how hurtful the situation in general is. It's so (expletived) up.

Before my mother died when I was 17, she said that my father would remarry because he needs someone to take care of him and can't be alone. My mother was a wise woman. She said we should do our best to accept the woman the best we could, but I don't think my mother had his current wife in min when she said that.

This is my father's second marriage since. I was very close with my first step mother and our relationship was built on mutual respect. She was a good woman and did her best to take care of my brother who was only 9 at the time. But my father still favored taking care of her family over his own at times.

This carried over into his current marriage (my father's 4th) but to an extreme. And he cut off my 2 sisters years ago, then my brother 2mo before my s/s attempt- all instigated by his wife. She's very controlling and gets whatever she wants for herself and her family and is ruining my father's business. He knows it, and lets it happen.

I love my father. I have a million reasons from my childhood to the present to run for the hills, but I will not. You only get one father.