This was a sad day for the family. Derrick's dog Wendy had to be euthanized this afternoon. We thought she was already dead, from old age. Turned out she was still breathing and would for quite a while. We didn't want her to suffer or prolong the time. So we now have another dog go over the rainbow bridge.

Walk, run and have fun Wendy. No more pain for you.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

I am sorry you lost a fur baby....
(((((HUGS))))))
they are family.
bizi

Donna, I'm sorry about Wendy. I hope Derrick's taking it okay :hug: I hope you find everyone is doing well this weekend :) Your poor sister… it must be hard to adjust to losing vision in one of your eyes :hug:

Bizi, I'm sorry your M-I-L also has vision problems, and there are other worries as well :hug:

Donna,

I am sorry to hear about Derrick's Wendy. :hug::hug::hug:

I hope that your sister and other family members are o.k.

Mari

Had to post we got our first real significant amount of snow this morning.
It is the 20th of January wow.

Well at least its not as cold as earlier this week. And supposed to be
in 30's all weekend. In Indiana just one or two days is usually in the
30's in January. And rare to hit 40's. So we are having a nice winter.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Here's hoping that the winter goes well.

M

I am so sorry for wendy. it sounds as if she had a fantastic life! Tell Derrick i believe we meet our pets in heaven. She will probably be patiently waiting for him. Sorry about your sister's eye. Eyes are so precious.
fondly
bobby
are you taking care of yourself lately??

Thanks Bobbi

Derrick also believes we meet our pets in heaven. For years he has looked
forward to meeting his first dog yapper, nippers brother. Now he has two
waiting. We also believe all the dogs we have lost were there waiting
on her when she came. Especially Nina one of my dogs that I gave to a friend, and Piglet my dog I lost last year.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Well its been a weird week. Just can't seem to shake this headache completely.

Next Wednesday I take Will to the new neurologist. Was supposed to get
some information to fill out. But never came. So guessing I'll get to do that
there.
He is going to Riley Children's Hospital in Indy.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

that has an excellent reputation!
bizi

I like it when they send out the paperwork ahead of time. It's much more convenient. Some times it's very time consuming.

I hope everything goes okay at Will's appointment. You had mentioned speech (?) therapy… did you ever get anywhere with that?

I hope your headaches go away Donna :hug:

We are doing a evaluation through school right now to figure out what device
and apps would be best to help.

Thanks for the thoughts, and yes Riley is a great hospital.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Will is a cutie pie.

How old is he now?

M

Will is 9. Will be 10 in October.

Glad we still have a few years till the teenage years. His dad is trying
to get a job at the Subaru factory in Lafayette, IN. And he is sure
he will have to start out on afternoons. So I would have Will after
school till he goes to school the next morning.

I would be working to talk to my husband and others about helping.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Wow that will be a big adjustment. Glad that you have family to help each other.
You are a great grandmother!
bizi

You take on a lot Donna :hug::hug::hug:

I hope you are good to yourself, too.

Yes its a big adjustment. He has really debated and worried about even
considering taking this kind of job. He wouldn't see much of Will.

But with his disabilities he is starting to realize that it can be a life thing for taking care of Will. I have tried explaining to him that it will work out.
But this is the option he is working on right now.

Will's neuro appointment went good. And she is referring him to Developmental Pediatrics at Riley. Not sure how long it will take to get in.

She is also doing another EEG, and there will probably be blood work.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Hi, Donna,

'Hoping that Will gets fabulous medical care.


M

Donna,
I remember when I was married to a guy who hated second shift ( 3:00-11:00), much preferring night shift.

But with a child of course, day shift is nice.
Working for Subaru will be nice too. :)

M

seems like yesterday that Will was 5!:)
bizi

Second shift is so hard because you miss pretty much all your regular family time. I hated it, even when I had to do it in spurts to cover for other people.

It will be hard, but hopefully this will be a building block to something more suitable in the near future. Sometimes if you work hard and put a bug in your supervisor's ear that your interested in an opening for something else you can get what you're looking for.

I'm so glad Will's appointment went well. He has a wonderful advocate :)

He still has to get the interview. So we will see. I'd personally
rather he stayed on days Shift. But that can't happen at Subaru.
So we will see, I don't think they have a 3rd shift.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

I wanted to thank everyone for listening. I don't have anyone close to
talk to about issues.

Derrick is probably going to switch roommates this summer if we can find
someone that will work for him. The roommate he has, had a meeting yesterday
about the visitors and eating Derrick's food. And I'm guessing other things.
Derrick stayed with his provider, because I didn't want his anxiety to go over
the roof. And with that many extra folks in the apartment. He wouldn't have
had any way to spend time in living room. Or even to go to kitchen very well.
He is gong to the primary Nurse Practioneer this coming week to talk about Anxiety medication.

I will be making an appointment soon with her. I need to go for my medicines and things. I've been neglecting the visit.

Also I've picked up 7 cases in the last week. And given referrals for two others to co-workers that handle the area. I would have kept one, but
I was taking my grandson to Riley that day.
I need to make sure that parent got ahold of my co-worker. And I think
if she didn't I'll set up a meeting to talk to her.

I have one case that is probably headed to due process. I at least will only
be moral support.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Donna,

You are busy.

I hope that things work out o.k. for Derrick.:grouphug:


M

It's a shame that Derrick has to wait until the summer for a new roommate. I hope that things aren't really too bad for him right now. Not that it's easy to live with any kind of issues like that.

You're dealing with a big case load right now, and I know you're also juggling a lot of family issues as well…

Again, I hope you are taking good care of yourself Donna. Please do something nice for yourself. You deserve it. :hug:

Derrick is a lot calmer right now. We will see how long it works. Seems
that a new set of rules was put in place for his roommate. Not sure how
things will work. By summer if things are going well he may not even want
to switch. Its always hard with his anxiety.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

I hope that things work out. Because of his anxiety, a change could end up being much more disruptive, especially if he ends up with a roommate who presents more issues. You never know who you're really getting…

I have lived with friends who have become horror shows as roommates. One friend had never been on her own. She went wild when she moved in with me and became a totally different person. She got into a lot of drugs, started bringing a lot of strange men home, and repeatedly stole from me. Living with her was awful, and I was worried about her constantly. I actually called her father to come get her.

kay that sounds awful!
bizi

For a couple of years I lived in a three bedroom house with two guys for roommates.

They were easy as roommates except that one or both of them would eat my food clearly designated as mine in the fridge.


M

Your so correct Kay. And I've thought of that. But right now he is
really wanting to think about changing roommates. I'm not sure
that the one we have in mind will work. But we will see.

He originally didn't want two roommates, this situation would be
exactly that. Two roommates. I worry about that with him.
So we shall see, if things calm down and he will stay. I'm not doing
any switching of companies or any thing till April or May. Because of his
needing a ride at 9 pm. And his lease not being up till August 1st I think.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

It's good he will have time to see if things will work out and reconsider his position. I think you're right to worry about two roommates, might be too much with his anxiety problems. You're a good mum :)

Interesting things going on lately. Really think my case tomorrow will go good.
But we will see.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

You always have a lot going on Donna! I'm glad you have the feeling your case will go well. Good luck! :)

Ugh, does anyone know if a full moon has happened in the last two weeks.
Or is coming. Or anything else that would cause suicidal issues in the
next few days. For the last couple weeks, one area of mine has had
3 or 4 suicidal attempts its really unusual for this many to happen.

Really not sure what to think

Donna :hug::grouphug:

I am so sorry that is happening. how awful!
take care of yourself too.
bizi:hug:

Donna,

I am thinking about you and hoping that you and yours are ok. :hug::hug::hug:

Mari

I recently read an article about teen suicides going viral. They exaggerated the "viral" part, but the point was once one teen in an area made an attempt, and it became known, one or more susceptible individuals would follow suit.

I'm sorry there is so much sadness in your area right now Donna. That community is going to need to do some healing to get through this :hug::hug::hug:

The thing is I don't believe the community is aware of this. And I don't plan to spread the word.

One of the students was already on suspension, when she attempted. But is now in a group home. She has lots of issues. And has tried before. So that one made sense in a way.

But the rest are coming out of the blue kind of.

On another note. I made a appointment with my Nurse practitioner for next week. Its overdue kind of but its made. Then later in the month I have mammogram and first of April a appt. with the Oncologist for the breast cancer appointment. Just of course a re-check.

Also Will has been targeted for what we call the Family Support Waiver, same one that Derrick has. I just dropped his paperwork at the Pediatricians this morning. And they will fax it after the second sheet is signed. And then send originals back to me.

Really also excited that the company we work with for Derrick finally stepped up yesterday. The guy who has been doing the pick ups when bus isn't available's car broke down this week. The bus was arranged for the work days. But they couldn't pick him up after Best Buddies last night. So it was arranged for someone to pick him up. Turns out the new director's husband picked him up.

He was in really good mood.
Donna :hug::grouphug:

good luck with your appointments.
bizi

Donna,

Does this mean that Will have a more focused and more organized team helping him?

M