I have had two rough days. The only amount of time I went out today
made me tired. I have had the flu or food poisoning yesterday. Now
pretty sure its either flu or migraine before feeling.

I have always had a odd feeling before and after some kinds of migraines.
Now I'm a little worried I wont feel like going to the fair tomorrow night.

We will see what happens.
Will's case conference was all I went out for today. It went well. But I am
even more glad I asked for the Autism evaluation, and we are still waiting on
the AAC evaluation to start. I will be checking into amount of days if it doesn't get finished before end of school this year.

We really need some ideas and help before school is out.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

I hope you feel better soon and take some time to take care of yourself.
bobby

I'm taking care of myself for sure. I will pick Derrick up for Track and drop him and WIll off and pick up.
But then tonight I cancelled my fair which I hated doing its one usually very successful. But just knew the body wasn't up to it.

Then my husband offered to take Derrick back home tonight. Which is
very nice of him.

I'm not sure how much I'll be on the next couple weeks. My work computer is headed to the main office for computers. I'm getting a different or new one in a couple weeks.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

I'm glad that things are going well with Will's evaluations so far. I'm sure everything will get done because you're so good at keeping on top of things.

I'm sorry you're not feeling well Donna, but I'm glad that you're taking care of yourself for once. Get well soon! :hug::hug::hug:

((((HUGS))))
bizi

:grouphug:Thanks I've felt a lot better this week.

Donna

I am glad that you felt better this week!
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Me too. I'm getting ready to go to the IN*SOURCE volunteer Conference and IN-SERVICE this week. Would be rough if not feeling better.

Donna:grouphug::hug:

Back, and had a wonderful time. Its going to be a little expensive because I got Derrick and my friend Shannon's son Chris their own room. Not that
Derrick wont pay me some of the money. But Shannon is just barely making it, and her son just lost his last job. So its not going to happen for a while
if they can pay any. But all they do to help Derrick still makes it worth it
to me. I have also already bought there tickets for a season at Indiana Beach, because we could get them for $90 for both. Its their 90th anniversary. It was cheaper than it would be almost to go once.

Next, my son Dan is having lots of issues. He decided to go rolling I guess through some stop signs (two) just by his house. The cop that saw him was already upset with him, because he had pulled out of the convenience store in front of him. But he wasn't going over 30 the whole time. He then parked his vehicle behind my house. They live right next door. The cop lost him and then saw him when he was walking in his back door with his kerosene.

He was not only maniac, and some other things. But talked a mile a minute in the cop car that he didn't need to say or hear. I think other than a miswritten report. The cop knew he had problems right then. Not sure he didn't arrest him more because of the talking. He is really off. We had already been trying to talk him into admitting himself for care.

So then when he was home, and he and my husband had words. After the
weekend, and I'm at my cancer doctors office. I learn that he is talking
about dying, and is having issues again. Of course my husband can't be reached, he was willing to go to be admitted. So his girlfriend called a
ambulance. He spent the day at a regular hospital. Was supposed to
go to the psychiatric, but my husband then took his girlfriend to pick up her meds. And the idiots went to find out were Dan was. And they released him, (not bad enough for psych) and he and my husband had issues in talking all the way home. Kortni his girlfriend has issues too. But as I told my husband her talking off on way home was more because she hasn't slept in a while.

So then on Tuesday luckily my husband took Dan to the doctor's twice. And their car to the mechanic who fixed it. They picked it up yesterday.

My son had been threatening to call IRS. And as he was off, he seems to
have cut up some boards that my husband had for loading his backhoe. Not sure how he even got them. But so my husband had been texting Kortni about that. She is trying to find a way to replace the Wood. But he then
started talking about the IRS, and how he took this week off to work on
taxes. And probably hasn't done a thing. And how Dan supposedly called
IRS and we are both going to end up in jail. So I was calming her down at
midnight last night. I have no clue if we could end up in jail. But I know
he was just giving her the words. Dan has no phone and uses her's. I think he was giving Dan those words. But as mad as he has been the last few days. With the issue with the wood. Ugh. He works on taxes at one of
the rentals, that is empty. So I've only seen him in passing since I got back.

And he took it all out on them. So far its not been brought up to me by him.

I'm personally so glad he was off to deal with this all. I usually get stuck with it all. Before the wood issues. He was even talking about getting a lawyer to see if there is a way we (he and I) can take guardianship and do some work.
I've already told him it wont work. But he needs to hear it from them.

Donna:hug::grouphug:

I am hoping it all made sense. Just needed to get it off my chest. I seem
to handle things different than he does. But for once I think he saw some things I've had to deal with through the years. Life is just living at times.

I am so glad Devin has a girlfriend that came and stayed with them while I was gone. That way I didn't have to worry about Will. And if he was safe.
Its usually Kortni that puts him on the bus when I'm gone.

I have a brand new computer that I love from my work. Much lighter than my old one.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Hi, Donna,

That's a shame that that the pyschiatrist let him go.
I hope that he settles himself down or get back to a doctor.

M

Thanks Mari

He is back with a doctor. And will be back on his meds and some new ones
today. Turned out they needed to work on the insurance this morning before they can pick up prescriptions. Then hopefully soon he will be better.

Thank goodness my husband Dale calmed back down enough he could work on taxes last night and early this morning finally. The problem we have is
he has waited to many years to catch up. But that will happen hopefully
he will stop trying to procrastinate. He was to upset this week he took
off. But that makes sense. He is hard headed and emotional at times.

Donna

I forgot drum roll.

I got the best news at my cancer doctor's the other day. I'm in good shape
cancer wise still. But I lost another 5 lbs. And to top that off since August
when I was last there I have lost 11 lbs. Wow, I knew it was some but not that much would have been my thought. I am still working to lose.

But really glad with my totals so far. THis is with keeping it off.

Donna :hug: :grouphug:

how wonderful! such great news!
bobby

It's good to hear that you enjoyed your trip!!! :) You deserved a break, and needed to recharge in order to handle all the stress you were going to face when you got home :hug::hug::hug:

I am so glad that Dan has gone back to the doctor and is agreeing to go back on meds and the insurance issues have been worked out. I don't remember you posting anything that in-depth about Dan's symptoms, but I remember you said it was helpful to read my posts when I was trying to stabilize my mania for so long, and now I can see why… :hug::hug::hug:

It must be so hard to have an adult child who is bipolar… no matter how destructive his behavior is, you can't successfully intervene until he decides to be compliant unless he's a threat to himself or others. As a mother, it must be so hard to watch :hug::hug::hug:

Re: The threats to call the IRS.. If I'm manic, I can become manipulative. He could have been threatening you to stop you from trying to get him to the hospital/doctor, especially if he was enjoying a euphoric mania.

I'm glad that Dale has been able to calm down and is working on your taxes. I hope he is able to catch up soon. That will be one less worry for you both.

Congratulations on your good report from the doctor and your weight loss!!! I know you're hoping for more than 11lbs, but I think that's great! :):):)

Kay

Even handling this adult issue. Still is just as hard as the child I had. But at least now I'm not exactly handling it by myself it seems.

Thanks
Donna :hug::grouphug:

Hoping things settle down on Monday. Its been hopping with things
going on here. Dan decided he didn't want people going to the church
fish fry across the street from him to park in his yard. So I was there
last night trying to keep him calmed down.

Ugh life.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Thinking of you Donna :hug::hug::hug:

Could use some prayers Will has developed, some weird breathing issues.
The school nurse saw it yesterday. But since he is getting on at his house
and off the bus there. I don't see as much of him. He has a doctor's appt. for tomorrow now. But I'm going in kind of blind. Luckily the school is sending home paperwork as to what they have noticed. I was originally
going to take this to the Doctor later, when I took him for a med check.
Because Devin wanted him checked for Asthma, they have seen some odd
breathing.

But this doesn't sound like asthma to me. But we will see. I just talked
to the special Olympic track coach. And the school nurse had already
okayed him going to track. So she will know if it starts also. If nothing
else they can have him not do as much running I think. He had just
returned from gym class and was sounding great. So really no clue
what is up.

:hug::grouphug:

Hi, Donna,

I hope that Will is going to be O.K.


M

I hope everything will turn out okay with Will as well. Maybe he is just having a little trouble from postnasal drip because of allergies…? :hug::hug::hug:

I hope that things go well for all of your family today.
(((((HUGS))))
bizi

Doctor thinks he has developed a tic that is causing part of it.

That after he does it for a while. It causes him to have a little trouble
breathing.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

I'm sorry to hear that Donna. I wish it was something easier for Will to deal with :hug::hug::hug:

I think that it will not be as hard to deal with as time goes on. We just
need to understand why he is doing what he does. I also think when
it starts if we send him for a run around the house outside. Or go for a walk we can get him off what is happening. He can use the exercise anyway.

I have seen much worse tics. So if they don't change or get worse I think
he and we can handle them.

Derrick's chapter of Best Buddies at Purdue got I believe 3 or 4 awards
yesterday at the friendship walk. They were really surprised, I guess
the sponsor knew they had a chance for one of the awards but the
rest were a big surprise. They really enjoyed the walk a lot better
this year. And so technically did I, except the fact it was harder to locate
places to sit without getting in the way.

But Derrick and his buddy had a great time.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

That is so wonderful donna!
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Donna,

It's I love the attitude you have and how you approach every challenge. Your family, friends, and job are lucky to have you :hug::hug::hug:

I'm so glad that you think Will's new tic will be manageable. Sending him for a run when it happens makes a lot of sense to me.

I'm glad to hear that the run went well and that Derrick had a good time.

:hug::hug::hug:
Kay

donna, do they think that the tic is from some of the meds that he takes?
just curious.
bizi

Bizi

Honestly they don't know. But the fact that he has been on these two meds
for about 2 years at least tells me I don't think so. But we are going to
switch to vyvanse which is a lot like Adderall. Which worked very well for
his dad Devin. I was leary to raise the concerta any higher so when he suggested that we switch I thought it a good idea. I've known for
about 3 months his dosage either was being raised or he was going to
change it. The old dosage just isn't working now.

But I think its going to be this summer more, because they are out for
the summer on May 20th. And I'm pretty sure he has enough meds till
then. And I'd rather someone be watching the change in the meds for
him.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Wow, things have really been off for Derrick with his roommate, but we have
done everything I can think of to make it work. Tonight was the last straw.

We just went in about 9:30 to 10pm to pick Derrick up after he called and
let me know that he didn't feel safe anymore. While he was gone last night
to his provider's who takes him to the dentist, which he went this morning.

One or more of his roommates friends got into his room, which was locked.
And threw all his sheets and blankets on the floor. And slept as far as we
know on the bed. Seems, his roommate has had at least two or more
friends staying with them since Sunday night. Two that are homeless from
what Derrick understands. Tonight when we got there 5 or 6 people
were in the apartment, one of which people that live in the 4 apartment area
say has been banned from being there.

So we will be moving Derrick out as soon as we can. And will be looking
into getting him a one bedroom apartment. It will take a while. So he
will either stay with his provider or us till then. We had already been
working on a rent assistance one bedroom for him. Now really hoping
its going to work out. Even if its August like his original contract would
have been.

I'm a nervous wreck right now.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Wow.

It is going to be o.k.

I am glad that you check in on him.

M

i am so sorry this is happening......what an awful thing. it is like you are being tested. you are so strong but must have your limits.
bobby

How awful!
Golly There must be someone to report this to?
Or someone to be held accountable for letting this happen?
Is there a land lord or other governing person?
bizi

Oh I should note that luckily Derrick is very careful to let us know
when there is something off. Or he doesn't feel safe. We are very
lucky that way.

Bizi, last night when I got home I sent a email to his case manager
with the Waiver. Because these are incidents I have just learned
recently that need to be reported to the state. They manage his
waiver. Technically I'm not wanting to tell the apartment complex
because other than getting him out and not worrying about any
issues. I have to figure out if the company that pays his roommates
bills is going to just go ahead and pay the rent and utilities or we
will need a lawyer.

I'm not sure if we want to tell the complex yet. But they will be
told as soon as someone can tell me if they are just going to take
over his contract or if they will fight it. We will hire a lawyer if that
is the case. Either way I just now realized that the complex will
have to know, so Derrick isn't responsible for any damage done
after we move him out.

But that can wait for a day or two. I just don't have all the answers
yet. But I will. He is safe in his old room, and we have a plan till
another apartment comes available.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Thanks donna, you definitely are on top of things.
You are a great mom!
bizi

I'm glad that you are in the process of getting things resolved, but what a terrible situation to be in :hug: There seems to be so many details involved in the reporting and handling this while making sure Derrick's not on the hook for anything financially.

In the end this may turn out to be a blessing. Derrick will probably do very well in his own apartment. Since he does a good job of keeping you apprised of everything that's going on, he may be safer living solo than with some random roommate.

Yes, Kay I agree.

Seems he became Thomas yesterday somewhere between work and home.
He took home the wrong hat. So we also went by so he could change
hats. I had already let the Job Coach know what had happened. And
she had let them know the boys aren't to be in the same area. Or talking
or anything. Which is just fine with Derrick. They also told him that they
didn't think anyone would allow him to leave this hall, so I think he
got that message. I had already told him transferring halls wouldn't be
him. Because he was there first and they really like him.

So if anyone moves it will be the old soon to be roommate.

Talked to Director of his agency. They are hoping to just move another
person into the apartment with his roommate. That way we wouldn't
exactly have to break the contract. Because the new roommate could
just take over.

So waiting to hear what she finds out.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

I know that in my state even if you have a lease for a year and move out a month after you sign it, you are only responsible for rent until the landlord finds a new tenant. I guess it's the same in Derrick's case, but he shouldn't have to pay any rent while he is forced to stay elsewhere.

I have a feeling that under the circumstances, they won't even try to get him to pay anything. If they do, you can push, and if that fails, you don't have to hire a lawyer. You can reach out to your city/state housing authority for help… or even threaten to. Since his safety was at risk, he has a very good case.

Hoping everything works out, minus any speed bumps :hug::hug::hug:

Kay

I want off this rollercoaster soon. Now its supposed to rain all weekend.
Ugh, not sure if they will get him moved.

Today Derrick got to work, and his old roommate who works days and he works
afternoon's and evening. Informed Derrick that one of his friends was going
to kill him when he saw him next. So upset Derrick ended up having to leave
work. He is okay now, and with my friend and her son. If problems with
seizures they will let me know.

Donna :hug::grouphug:

Poor Derrick. What a mess. :hug::hug::hug: