Bobby, it's funny how many things we have in common… We were both care takers, had alcoholic fathers, sister issues, and we both love coffee and collect v-neck teeshirts…

She was jealous because you had the heart and strength to do what she couldn't.

My grandmother was in a nursing home the same time my mother was in hospice at home. My sister didn't take much interest in either of them. They both died in 2007. I know she didn't get closure because some of my mannerisms still bother her because they remind her of them.

She's always been highly critical of me and treats me like she's better than me, but I know that she's jealous of me because I could do what she couldn't. My father would feed the fire by telling her and everyone else how good I was to my mother. He still does to this day. She hasn't spoken to him in years though (for entirely different reasons), and I don't blame her.

you forgot about cats. in the end i stopped being a caretaker and later my sister moved my mother to a nursing home near her. she paid somebody to watch her. she also moved my aunt who i never got along with. when we were little my aunt used to say bad things about my mother which got me mad...my father's sister which in turn got her mad at me. I was alienated from my mother the last years of her life. she took myra and alex, the youngest nephew on the concord and qe2 and i found out by accident and she offered to take me to the hamptons. really insensitive since because of all my burns i became prone to skin cancer with exposure to the sun. they plotted behind my back.my sister got all the furniture and paintings and most of the jewelry...and she was the rich one...i found out by accident that mother had given the boys a lot of money...they are so rich now...and were headed that way while i was headed in the opposite direction with no husband. too many unpleasant memories except i am glad i am me.
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bobby
have a doctor's appt. he will tell me what the heart tests showed. i know there was an abnormal ekg and i don't know what else.

I hope that your doctors appointment is ok.
keep us posted.
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bizi

I'm so sorry Bobby

Another similarity though…
My mother had tens of thousands of dollars in jewelry. Since 2007 my sister was supposed to be just "holding" it, but she still has it all. Neither one of us would sell it, but we were supposed to divided it up. She took all the furniture because when we left the house she got a condo and I moved into an apartment. A month after my mother died, she gathered up all my mother's (all designer) clothes and brought them to a consignment shop. She collected money from that for years. I didn't get a penny because I couldn't pick my mother's bones a month after she died. What I'm really concerned about are the family photo albums. For over 10 years I've been asking to get them so I can have them copied and she always tells me they're packed away somewhere. I haven't mentioned the jewelry. I've been focused on the pictures.

My mother died the summer before my senior year of HS. The month after I graduated, my dad put our house on the market and bought my sister and I a condo because she refused to move into the new house with him and his new wife. She kicked me out of the condo about a year later for smoking a cigarette in my bedroom. She convinced my father to sell her the condo for $20K below the market value and moved her now husband in. I got first, last, and security towards my room in a 3 bedroom apartment totaling $900. She's smart.

Money means a lot to some people. Some of them are willing to do shifty **** to get what they want. I'd rather have nothing than feel dirty or hurt somebody else.

sounds like you and bobby both had/have challenges with family issues.
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bizi

i am shocked. at first i thought you were going to mention the kitty cats...you and my sister sound similar but yours might win out. my sister kept all the family pictures and displayed a lot but not one of me...lol...I also think I am not talking about the amount of money that you are talking about....wow....does it hurt more or just the same? I forgot what it was but once my mother died i said she could no longer stab me behind my back but she did something that did.
It is weird now that myra is dead. Do you have anger?I think the pink elephant is the anger i still feel towards my mother and sister. I am afraid her boys fell near the tree. I sent them yesterday a passover card. so far i heard from one the youngest alex wishing me the same., not signing it love though but still responding. I am sure i got their emails right. In psalms class yesterday the rabbi talked about psalm 113 -i think that was it how God helps the lowly. I have to look at it later.I have been asking for forgiveness for all the misdeeds I have done and keep on doing. I am not strong but i do try my hardest.I hope God forgives me.
Love
bobby

bobby, I think you are strong.
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bizi

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have a doctor's appt. he will tell me what the heart tests showed. i know there was an abnormal ekg and i don't know what else.[/QUOTE]

Is today the doctor appoint?

I hope you get good news.

M

he said i have four veaky valves which aren't unusual for my age. I am supposedly to see the cardiologist for an appointment.
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bobby

it sounds like my life span is shortened
bobby
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