Hi all,

For any of you who are familar with my neighbor Doug who I had the crush on and he had written me a letter saying he wasn't interested. I had written him one back in response. Well, today he was talking how the nurse who was suppose to hand him the letter I wrote to him stole from him. We started talking about that day of his note. She never gave him the letter I wrote to him and Doug never told his nurse I was stalking him like she said he said. He told me today he wondered why I stopped calling and coming over. He thought something was wrong because he said his note wasn't nasty and coudn't understand why I got mad. His note said way back he wasn't interested in me. His nurse told the carrier of my note that Doug doesn't even want me harrassing him. Doug never said that.

befuddled2

hi, Befuddled,

It sounds like Doug has changed his mind about you.


How awful.
I don't have much good to say about nurses today.
Poor Doug.

M.

Hi Mari,

To my knowledge Doug still just wants to be friends but last night when he was at my house he looked at me with a want to look in his eye. Could be me reading him wrong. I was on the computer showing him things and instead of him looking at the monitor he was looking at me with that look in a man's eyes. I hadn't seen that look in gosh, I can't remember. My husband didn't show any emotion except for anger.

befuddled2

I had a feeling that that nurse was lying and doug never said that, I know a couple of us posted that back when it happened. Hang in there BF, it sounds like there are some rough waters ahead for you because of how ill Doug is getting. Do whatever in your heart feels right and we'll be here to support you in whatever it is you do. Be it baking him some more goodies or something else nice, do whatever your heart says to do.

((((((Barbara)))))),

I'm glad you two came back together so that you could find that out.

The only reason I could have seen for him ever saying that was that he didn't want you to get "too" involved with him because he knew how sick he was.

It's really nice to find out that he wasn't pushing you away.

You've got some real tough times ahead, Barbara, but, I think allowing Doug into your life is going to enrich you incredibly.

Hugs.

Barb

I agree with Barb
Bobby

Thank you Pam and Barb:

Today I found out that all my research and letter of need writing turned out to be productive. I have Doug #1 on a waiting list for a free computer, I had to write why I though he should have one. Also I found a Dream Foundation for Adults that works like the Make a Wish Foundation for kids. When I told Doug about the Dream Foundation he got the biggest smile on his face and was so excited that maybe he will be able to take a nice trip somewhere. He colored me an angel to have framed and put on my wall. I sat down this afernoon and cried for about 2 hours over Doug's condition but now I am happy because I have made so much progress to help him in his final days.

befuddled2

Gosh Barbara, I had a feeling the nurse was being a busy body. But not being there to get the read, how can we feel out that persons intentions.
I am glad though it is getting sorted out. Thanks to Doug;s honesty. HE SHOULD HAVE TOLD YOU IN PERSON INSTEAD OF A NOTE TO A THIRD PARTY.

Sorry I yelled, but that nurse had me frustrated to make you feel as bad as you did when that was not Dougs intentions.
You are a dear friend and they are lucky to have you. I hope the computer works out! That would be great.

The trip too WOW,
Barbara, if I saw that nurse again I would let off steam and tell them they could be reported to their agency for harassment of you....ERGH I am so angry.They should have on no certain terms told Doug his personal iussues are out of their scope of employment to mail the letter of talk to you himself.

That person should not be a caregiver. That is a position of extrem trust and they really are not trustfull.
Big hugs to you and try to just take one day, no long term anxiety. I know it is difficult but just try. Even limit tears and saddness to a shjort time and do something happier.

Di

Oh, my goodness, ((((((Barbara))))))!!

You're getting Doug a computer AND a trip. WOW!! Your halo is extra shiny today

Don't forget, sugar. It's OK to cry in front of Doug. I didn't realize that until I was taking care of my Mom during her last days. ALL the emotions are OK. If you let the words and the emotions out, that means that you'll have no regrets about things left unsaid.

I don't know how you two got back together again. The Universe is pretty determined when she wants something, isn't she I thank God that you're in his life now. You're gonna bring smiles and love to his last days ... so much better than what the alternative would have been.

BIG HUGS (and love). You truly are a wonderful person to have as a friend.

Barb

Wow, Barbara!
I am so glad that you guys discussed this...what a relief and yes I would be P'O"d at that nurse....if that had happened to me.
What an attack on her part.
all I can say is wow!
(((HUGS)))
bizi