Thanks for the update, bear.
You have a wonderful family.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Man. I looked into group settings and residential treatment. They are ALL about drug rehab. And anything that also treats mental disorders are for kids up to 17.

I found one place in Maine that would fit him. BUT....I doubt I could swing the tuition. I'm gonna call them anyway. Never know unless you ask. That is where I get stopped every time. We make too much money so he won't qualify for any of the state programs but I don't have a large enough income to send him to a boarding school or private school.

Once again, we need to be independantly wealthy in order to afford the luxery of being ill. sucks.

He went through a bit of a rage on Saturday evening, but pulled right back out of it. But he wouldn't go to work with his step-dad today either. I will call the pdoc in a bit and get him in. I am almost afraid to though. I don't want to hear what the next step may be. It scares me.

If I could just get my Con well and back in school, I don't think this would be so overwhelming. All will be well, but I am having a hard time waiting.

Thank heavens work is mellow and I am highly medicated. I would be so much more freaked out. (Usually this is my manic time, but I think we cut it off before I got rolling. wheh.)

Dear Mrs. Bear,

Stay highly medicated since that seems to be helping right now.
I hope Con gets straightened out soon.
I remember that you have looked into places for Wes before. I would hesitate to send him far far away. You want to be close enough so that you can keep an eye on how the place treats him.

Who can I vote for this November who will improve care for us and our children? ?? I want to know that someone beyond the folks living with it care about health care and mental health care issues.

I can dream I suppose.

M.

Supposedly Hillary. According to one of my patients. lol

The wild thing is, now he is an adult.

Even wilder? Now, he may qualify for state assistance because they can't count my income and he doesn't have a job. Which means he might be eligible for state mental health. And they may have a program for him. And there are a couple of other places I can apply for him as well.

I just got off the phone with a few places and have filed the application for state assistance. I will need to wait till after work to do the rest though. I have to do something productive today.

Mrs Bear

You also need to apply for SSI for him. THe way it sounds he will have a
very hard time handling a job or even getting his drivers license. So I
would apply for this too for him.

Also you might apply for a medicaid waiver if there is such a thing in
your state for mental illness. Some states have one. I am also not
sure but you might check into vocational rehabilation and a job coach,
they would also help with transportation for him to a job.

This way maybe you could get financial help for him to move into his
relatives housing and pay rent and his share of utilties. There are
some programs that do this.

And remember when you do the SSI that if he qualifies declare rent,
utilities and food allowances for him so he gets more.

Donna

I am going to go for ssi and medicare as well. He is slowly swinging back to a good place. The rage is very contained and not as frequent. I think part of it was from seeing his therapist and having a plan about getting some assistance in order for him to move forward. I really hope they accept his application. That will open a bunch of doors while I am working on the government.

Stressed, but ok. I am still doing allright in my own little battle with the bipolar monster. Good thing too. The world is upside down right now.

I am sure that htings will work out for wes.
He is a good guyand you are a terrific mom!
Glad that you are hanging in there.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Mrs. Bear, I would also look into Medicaid or Medical for Wes as that pays for much more than Medicare. Medicare when I got SS had a waiting period of 2 years. Wes should qualify for disability from Social Services while waiting for SS and Social Services could give him Medicaid. My mother-in-law's oldes son live with her and gets Medicaid. Medicaid will also pay for adult homes with a grant from the goverment.

Best wishes with your endeavor.

befuddled2

Good advice befuddled2. So is the idea of looking into Med-Waiver. Good luck Mrs. Bear we're here for you!