Hi Barbara
 

I don't really have additionial suggestions - Jo had some good ones - as to the landlord situation.

I'm glad you will be talking to that detective. He sounds like a good ally. Another thing i have heard of is people calling Legal Aid for stuff like this... i believe it is a free service, but i am very ignorant about that.... maybe someone else knows more on it... Or perhaps you can find it in the phone book or on the internet, and make a call to find out more.

Well, I'm rooting for you. There has to be a way to get them. Whatever you do, avoid direct confrontations, even if there are witnesses, or retaliatory actions, both of which could then be turned against you. Lying low and stockpiling evidence sounds like the best bet. It sounds like your friends there would be too scared to testify as witnesses as they are victims of the same rat that you are.

Is moving an option? Is it ok for me to ask why you still want to live there, with such bad blood running around? I think i would want to get out... but that is me.

If you don't want to answer, that is ok - there is no need to justify yourself. I understand that you do still want to live there whatever your reason, and regardless, you certainly have the right not to get treated the way you are being treated.

I am just asking because i would see moving as a very good alternative to living in such an environment as this. You are a brave woman.


hang in there!

~ waves ~

Thank you Waves. I do plan to move asp. First I need to find a place to live. I do plan to sock it to the landloard when I'm away though. I'm going to shake his tree and see what falls out figuretively speaking.

barbara

Now that DOES sound like a plan!!! WHOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOEY!!!! GO BARBARA!!! heheheh!!


:Dancing-Chilli::Excited::Dancing-Chilli:

Will you be dealing with lease issues?
this could also be a problem with security deposits.
I am hoping that you find a new place real soon....you deserve to be around nice people and treated with respect.
beth

Thank you Waves and Bizi.

Today I went by two apartments. I have an appointment to talk with one lady about a 2 bedroom apartment that is affordable. Some one recomended it to me.

I'm just so emotionally and mentally drained with so much to think about.

Hi Barbara...
 

would you like to pop in?
Have you talked to the apartment lady yet?
How are you feeling today?

:hug:

~ waves ~

Stressed
 

Hi Waves,

I did not go talk to the lady about the apartment yesterday. I have something better in mind I'd like pursue.

Could be trigger:

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I don't know if I posted before about the history I've had with the neighbor who moved next door to me or not. I've kicked her out of my apartment one day not long after her and I became neighbors. She's an instigator and that was why I kicked her out that day. In retaliation she called the cops on me twice for something I was not guilty of. The
1st time she said my music was too loud. Well, I told her last weekend I didn't want anything to do with her to not bother me. She retaliated by threatening me 3 times. When she did it to my face I told her here I am and of course she was all mouth. The cops came and I filed a charge against her. Today she followed me around the parking lot in her car and threatened me again. Today though she cursed and threatened me because she got served with the papers today for the charge I have against her. The cop told me if I want to file charges today she will likely get jail time. He said they don't take kindly to someone threatening a witness which was the case.

Barbara

oh man!
 

This woman does not sound safe to have around. :eek:

Filing charges again might be the way to go. I wonder if you can find out whether she will be eligible for bail, first. You do need to be safe, and she lives right next door.

So i don't really know what to say. File, or not. I think i would want to file, but would go down and talk to the cops about the possibility of her still being out and about with increasing malintent. Then make the decision based on what they say. I wonder if it is possible to "file a complaint" as opposed to charges... i wonder if there would be any distinction. Maybe you could ask that. Basically for them to have a record of what happened today - that does seems important for the whole legal process. I don't know. This is very troubling.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. If you have not already done so, do reschedule the meeting for the other apartment... you need to get out of that place ASAP as i see it. :( :o

Thank you Waves. I am going to wait and see how she acts now as to whether or not to file a complaint against her again. If I file charges for today she won't stay in jail for long. I have an appointment with my lawyer on Tuesday so I will also talk to her. Although my lawyer does not deal in cases like this. The cops had her trapped in. She was stalking me also by driving around the property and following me in her car.

Barbara

Oh this sounds awful for you to have to deal with Barbara.
I am sorry that she is so abusive and threatening.
I am glad that you are meeting with your lawyer soon.
Are you still able to see your DV counselor?
Have you a regular therapist that you could talk to?
Most of us who have mental health issues have therapists to talk to.
They can help you talk through all of this.
It sounds really hard to handle.
You are doing well keeping up with it all.
beth