[Mari]

Hi,
I want to face days with fewer struggles.
Sometimes I feel that the struggles are of my own making because if I could only try a little harder, sleep at night a little earlier, cooperate in eating a better diet, find a way to clean my house so that I do not feel like I am living in squalor, be more efficient at work so I can feel more on top of things, live a mediative / contemplative life so I can feel good about my daily decisions . .

I don't know.
I don't know.
I want to feel better and I want to be a better person.

I think I know what I can do to improve things at least a few degrees, but I am already doing my best.
I wish my best were better.
Or maybe I need a whole new way of looking at this.

. . .feeling lost and frustrated.. .
sometimes I can go through the motions and feel like I am almost pulling it off. . . . these feelings only last for a few moments here and there. . . . I want the moments to turn into days and weeks and become part of my life.

I feel like I am working hard. But maybe I can work harder.



Is it possible to feel mostly good about how you are choosing to life your life that you have been given? Do some people achieve this?


Maybe I need to focus more on my life.
But then, I realize that I am already quite inward focussing. And I am not sure how to stretch out my limited to energy to accomplish new plans / revived goals.




M.

[Curious]

Mari, setting goals can be a good thing, but be realistic.

Break down those goals into steps on how to acheive them.

Which is the most important or is making a step in all more important?

I am pretty good at helping with organization in life and home. Years of being in managment and owning a business I guess. That and being a trainer.

If I can help, let me know. I'm just a PM or email away.

[Kitty]

I hope you don't mind me poking into this forum....I'm usually on the MS forum but I saw this thread title and remembered an article I read that helped me. I'm posting the link to it here. Scroll down below the rainbow for the article.

http://www.allthingsfrugal.com/g_happylife.htm

[Mari]

Thank you.


I don't feel good.
So the first goals have to be about health.
. . . maybe sleep and exercise.
But I haven't slept right since I was a child, so that would be starting with a goad that is too hard.

Right now I exercise once a week most weeks. Maybe I can increase that to two times a week.
And maybe I can work on diet by finding new ways to fix fruits and veggies that I like -- can't really tolerate them right now due to several factors.

M.

[Mari]

Originally Posted by Kitty

I hope you don't mind me poking into this forum....I'm usually on the MS forum but I saw this thread title and remembered an article I read that helped me. I'm posting the link to it here. Scroll down below the rainbow for the article.

http://www.allthingsfrugal.com/g_happylife.htm

Money management and other types of life management!
Very hard unless I am feeling good.
How did you know that I stink at managing money!
I've gotten better because I have learned from hubby.
Most of the time I pretend I don't have any money to spend -- that works somewhat.

Nurture It:
Protect It What you focus on in your life will flourish. If you focus on problems, lack, hatred, guilt, and self doubt, that’s what you’ll find growing in your garden of life. Instead plant seeds of change, conviction, courage, and choice. No, it’s not just about thinking positive thoughts -- but it’s a heck of a good place to start!

Be Consistent
Anything that you do consistently, day after day, week after week, adds up. Good results or bad results are the product of repeating the same behavior over and over. If you consistently save, you’ll have money in the bank; if you consistently over-spend, you’ll be in debt. Choose what you want, and take one small step, consistently day after day, and see what happens.

Maybe I can already have a plan in place for when I have a good day.

This is already sounding overwhelming.

Today it is going to take a big effort to show up at work
1. showered and dressed

2. on-time

Never mind that I am not prepared and did not get paper work done over the weekend.
I did rest and do laundry and those are important things.
M.

[Curious]

Originally Posted by Mari

Thank you.


I don't feel good.
So the first goals have to be about health.
. . . maybe sleep and exercise.
But I haven't slept right since I was a child, so that would be starting with a goad that is too hard.

Right now I exercise once a week most weeks. Maybe I can increase that to two times a week.
And maybe I can work on diet by finding new ways to fix fruits and veggies that I like -- can't really tolerate them right now due to several factors.

M.

Mari, are you exercising at home or the gym?

Is the lead up to the day of exercise one of dread or do you look forward to it?

An easy way to add a little bit of exercise each day is to pick just ONE commercial time during a favorite tv show. During that break, walk in place or pick a stretch. Vary the exercise each night.

A key thing you mentioned about fruit and veggies..is that you can't tolerate them right now. Then don't. Try adding just one gass o something like V8 Fusion or V8 Splash. Maybe applesauce instead of apples.

Sleep can be a hard one. Doing cardio exercise inthe evening can rev you up and make it hard to sleep. I can do weights, yoga and stretching, but anything that get my heart rate up..then so am I all...all night.

Also sugars and caffiene.

You can do it Mari, just take those baby steps and don't try to make all the changes at once.

[Kitty]

Originally Posted by Curious

You can do it Mari, just take those baby steps and don't try to make all the changes at once.

This is true.....I found that if I make tiny little changes I can stick with it.

For example, I decided to start walking on the treadmill. I have MS so this is a big challenge for me some days. But I imposed a 3 minute goal on myself....I knew I could easily meet that.....and did that for five straight days. I could have easily done more but I stuck to the 3 minutes a day for five days and then bumped it up to 6 minutes, then to 9 minutes, then to 12 minutes. I'm up to 20 minutes now and I can really tell a difference in the way I feel.

If I had started out at 20 minutes I would have failed first thing.

I won't start more than one challenge at a time. Too much change is overwhelming. Small, consistent changes that you can easily maintain give you the satisfaction of meeting a goal and knowing that you can follow through and succeed!

[BlueMajo]

Hey !!!

Thanks for this thread !!!

Mari, I just feel exactly the same...
Do you feel that you cant enjoy anything ? That happen to me quite often... is like, heck, I have the life in front of me, I try to do many things, like, travelling, styding, going out and, voila ! I cant enjoy them !!!! Have you feel that way !? Sucks. And I just cant help it....

Hey Kitty, Just read the article. Thanks. What is said is so true... I will try to do that

[Dmom3005]

Mari

Sending you some hugs, and wishing I had some answers.

Sorry that you are going through this.

Donna

[Mari]

Hi,
I had an awful day at work.
I'm so tired and overwhelmed.
M.