Dear Barbara,

I'm worried about you.
Before I go to sleep, I want to help you remember that your goal each day is to take care of yourself.
(Let everything else go as you inhale and exhale)
-- Focus on yourself. Concentrate on being strong and powerful in your heart and mind.

Focus on taking care of your own personal and private needs.

Keep talking to us here.

Call someone on your health care team.

M.

((( Barbara )))

I can see your point... and i hear your frustration this has been going on for so long. i think i would be about out of my skin.

However if we put You and Your Wellness as top priority, and not Ms Drama Queen, then i do feel that Jo's and Mari's posts really hit the nails on the heads.

Please do not let this woman incite you to violence. I know you know in your heart that is not the best answer, anyway.

Please do call your DV counselor. And I think a tweak on the psych meds due to stress might be helpful - i don't know, but no harm giving pdoc a call as well.

I will be thinking and praying for you. I am very concerned for you too.



~ waves ~ from my new computer

Sending you some hugs Barb.

Hoping you can come up with some peaceful things for you.

Donna

Sending lots of love and prayers for peace.
I hope that woman gets a taste of her own medicine! Bad of me, but, she is just a huge bully and jelous!

Hold your head high and breath deep. Don;t let her see you rattled dear friend.
Di

My next door nieghbhor has charged me with excessive noice or whatever. i can' t ssee strought.


barbara

I'm sorry this is happening...

I wouldn't be able to see straight either. Can you do something to get the anger out in a contained way, like punch pillows, or scream into a pillow... stuff like that? it might help.

Anyway, please sit tight and call your DV counselor, and then your pdoc.

If you were to do anything to engage this woman, anything at all, let alone beat the lights out of her, you would be playing right into her hand... it would give credence to her lies. You would actually hurt yourSELF more than hurting HER.

Please be safe. Maybe when you talk to your counselor you could ask about avenues for alternative housing, and start looking into that... at least you would be working on this problem, and perhaps not feel so helpless.

Also i wonder if you can remind yourself that, while the problems right now are constant, you WILL move somehow, and down the road, that woman will trouble you NO MORE. There is light at the end of the tunnel, try to keep one eye on it, or half a thought on it. I know it is hard to do and easy to say, when you are in the dark part of the tunnel still.

But you WILL EMERGE.

(((((((((((((( Barbara ))))))))))))))))

~ waves ~ sending peaceful thoughts your way

I don't know if this would work,or not. You could sit out in the front yard,and read Proverbs from the Bible outloud,as if you are reading to yourself. A lot of those Proverbs in the Bible are what she needs. ...Sharper then a two edged sword...

If she starts getting loud again,get the Bible out,and start reading Proverbs again in you front yard in a calm voice. BF

Dear Barbara,

You can't control her. You can't stop her.

You can choose to not let this bother you any more than it absolutely has to.

Have you called your DV counselor?
She can help you.
This neighbor is pushing buttons in you.
The DV counselor can talk to you over the phone.
Even if you have not seen her in a long time, she will call you back.

M.

Barbara

Your neighbor knows that she gets on your nerves. Thats why she is doing this. So like they are saying do something else.

I think for one thing take that camera outside and take some pretty
pictures.

Ignore the loud mouth.

Donna

Even the ones in my neighborhood are puttin me down by saying my next door neighbor would not be doing that to them. One neighbor told my neighbor that she night get away with hasseling me but she wasn't going to get away with hasseling her. The heck with them all. I've had a heavy medicated day so I'm not worth much now. I told a that one don't bother with me if she feels I'm a easy piece of prey. I'm not going to put up with bull just to get her to say what is the truth.

barbsara